The Masculinity Pyramid and How Andrew Tate Is Wrong

Yeah, and it's, I mean, as you're talking, I'm thinking of, you know, Christ took responsibility for the church.

You know, men are supposed to be like Christ as in marriage, and the woman is supposed to be like the church in marriage.

Christ took responsibility.

The chivalry side of it, Christ loved the church.

and gave himself for it.

So you got sacrifice there.

Also, uh, uh, you know, humility, you really see that kind of embodied in Christ as he submitted to his father and went to the cross.

Um,

Yeah, and the Christ-centered vision to me is really helpful, but this is part of what really was frustrating to me is I read all these Christian masculinity books, and they basically boiled down to make sure you get consent in marriage and be like Christ.

That was like my summary of all these masculinity books I read.

And be like Christ is a great thing, but what I was trying to get people to answer is how are men supposed to be like Christ in a way that is different than the way that women are supposed to be like Christ? Because my wife and I are following the same Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

We're both trying to be conformed to the image of Christ.

But where does maleness and femaleness depart? And that's where I think the top of the pyramid is key for me.

Because when I even think about when Jesus or the Father use feminine language about themselves, Jesus says things like this, "'Oh, that I, like a mother hen, would gather Jerusalem under my wings.'" So he's secure enough in his masculinity to every now and then leverage a feminine side, but he is demonstrating that it is inherently feminine to be nurturing and inherently masculine to be disciplinary and strong.

So if I was going to do the femininity pyramid, it'd probably be humility, discipline, responsibility, and nurturing.

And the masculinity pyramid is chivalry at the top.

And I think some of that comes from, you know, when Adam sees Eve in the garden, it's bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh.

Finally, one who's like me.

And so I don't want to overestimate the male-female difference, like maybe they would have done a long time ago, like Plato or Aristotle certainly would have.

But I

also certainly don't want to underestimate it and promote some interchangeability of the sexes.

But I think chivalry to me is a good C.S. Lewis-y word about the capacity to be aggressive when necessary and the capacity to be gentle when necessary at the same time.

Yeah.

I want to get into some practical stuff.

Right now we're kind of talking about the theology side of things.