This Sucks...Unless It Doesn't: How to Change Your Mindset

Send us Fan Mail Stuck in traffic, spilled coffee on your shirt, or dealing with something much bigger? Mental toughness coach Chris Dorris says the problem isn’t what happened. It’s the story we tell ourselves about it. In this episode of the Today’s the Day Changemakers podcast, Jodi Grinwald sits down with Chris Dorris, a former Atlantic City social worker turned mental toughness coach. He has worked with elite athletes, Fortune 500 sales teams, and leaders around the world. Chris shares the one tool he’d teach if he could only teach one thing, explains why changing your mindset isn’t about faking happiness, and tells how two simple questions launched his career with one of the top college golf programs in the country. What You’ll Learn - Why Chris decides every morning that it’s going to be “the best damn day of my life,” and why that’s a discipline, not wishful thinking - **Catch, Own, Replace:** a simple 3-step tool to stop negative thinking - The “O-Line”: the three ways we interpret everything that happens to us - Why pain is inevitable but suffering is optional - The two questions that can open doors you never thought you could walk through - How small daily “reps” with little annoyances build the mental strength to handle life’s big challenges - Why a shattered leg in Sea Isle turned out to be “the best damn thing that could have happened” - How leaders can bring mental toughness training to their teams Memorable Quotes - “Create the state, don’t wait.” - “This sucks... unless it doesn’t.” - “Ain’t bad, just is.” (Chris calls it the Jersey version of Hamlet) - “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.” - “How quickly are you willing to get to creation during circumstances where you’re not getting what you want?” (Chris quoting Steve Chandler) Free Gift for Our Listeners **Get Chris’s Emotional Mastery 101 Bundle:** christopherdorris.com/jodi Learn More About Chris Dorris - **Website:** christopherdorris.com - **Daily Dose: Mental Toughness Tips in 30 Seconds or Less** (free daily email): christopherdorris.com/dd - **Books on Amazon:** *Leadership Unlocked: 11 Mental Toughness Disciplines to Get the Best Out of Your People* and *The Book of Mental Toughness Mantras* Also Mentioned - *Loving What Is* by Byron Katie - Steve Chandler and Jason Goldberg, coaches and friends of the show About Chris Dorris Chris Dorris is a mental toughness coach who helps people close the gap between how their lives are and how they want them to be. He began his career as a social worker in Atlantic City and went on to coach elite athletes, including 10 years with Arizona State University’s men’s golf program. Today he coaches top sales teams and leaders at companies including Salesforce, ServiceNow, Genesys, and Wolters Kluwer. Connect With Today’s the Day Changemakers Follow us on Facebook and Instagram: **@todayisthedayliveit** Subscribe to the Today’s the Day Changemakers YouTube channel so you never miss an episode. Get Jodi’s Book ***Today Is the Day. LIVE IT! Edge of Comfort to Center of Impact*** brings together 31 changemakers from California to Uganda who share what became possible when they stepped beyond their comfort zones. Available in hardcover, softcover, and eBook on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Walmart, and wherever books are sold. Help Keep This Podcast Going Today’s the Day Changemakers is listened to in more than 143 countries and territories, and we’d love your help keeping these conversations going. Support the show with a donation, and we’ll thank you by name on the next episode - email jodi@todayisthedayliveit.com to learn more. *Today is the day. You cannot go back to yesterday, and you do not yet own tomorrow. What step will you take today to get closer to your goals?* #MentalToughness #MindsetShift #ChrisDorris #PositiveMindset #Leadership #TodayIsTheDayChangemakers #TodayIsTheDayLiveIt  Support the show