Steven Chandler

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And those agreements are so critical.

And if you haven't looked up Steve Chandler, by the way, as a young new consultant or whatever, I implore you to listen to his audio about the difference between expectations and agreements.

expectations is when a boss or supervisor or whatever points at you and then tells you what to do and you all you do is basically smile and nod your head that's not an agreement nor should that leader think that you're actually going to do that i will or i won't is an agreement and again it's it's it's not it's not uh for the faint of heart but it it's something that i believe more people should think about when they're asking our spouse or our kids or even when you say yes Anyway, maybe a little tangent there, but...

Understood.

I'm your host, Greg DeCoker, and today I'm joined by a very special guest who has spent much of his life helping people see the world differently.

Dan Trometer is a speaker, coach, and magician who works with purpose-driven teams that want to think differently so they can create more change that matters.

Over the past two decades, he's presented at more than 1,000 events, helping leaders, teams, and organizations challenge assumptions, discover new perspectives, and unlock possibilities they may not have seen before.

His presentations are known for being insightful, engaging, funny, thought-provoking, and deeply human.

As a world-class magician, Dan uses wonder and illusion as powerful metaphors to explore empathy, leadership, communication, and connection.

He's also a certified coach who helps leaders and team members move from where they are to where they want to be.

What I love most about Dan, however, isn't just his spectacular magic.

I first met Dan almost 20 years ago through our mutual friend, Jamie Mason Cohen, when we shared the stage at one of Jamie's events.

Rich is somebody that I started following after I read his book, The Prosperous Coach.

He wrote it with Steve Chandler.

I was blown away by the book.

And so I just checked out his website, subscribed to his newsletter and got connected to him, started listening to his podcast.

And so the opportunity in a lot of different ways is to look at those places and look at the places where it's not working.

And OK, so how can we make it work better? And in my experience, one of the big places and I'm borrowing this from one of my coaches, a guy named Steve Chandler, who talks about the distinction between agreements and expectations.

So anytime you hear the word should, anytime somebody throws an I expect at you, you can just really lovingly say, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry.

You're dealing in a world of shoulds and expectations.