Emotional Intelligence Expert: How To Never Be Bothered By Anyone, Dealing With Feeling

I think that's probably when most people would be most curious about like, how do we figure this out? But before we get into that, I wanna break down this framework that you shared.

So you spoke about getting granular with understanding these emotions.

To our listeners and viewers, how does then that start to have an impact in the rest of my life by me being aware of these kind of granular emotions?

Well, there's a phrase, you got to name it to tame it.

So when you're feeling joyful and contentment, there's nothing to do.

You want to savor it.

You want to be with it because that's probably a great emotion or a set of emotions to feel during a recording.

But let's say before the recording, you got a phone call from a family member like, Cash, you're a moron.

You're an idiot.

Like, what are you doing with your life? And you all of a sudden you feel shame.

Right.

It's going to leak.

Yes.

Your brain's going to be trying to because our brains go to solving the strongest, most unpleasant feeling.

yes does that make sense so if i were to get a phone call right now that someone is in the hospital

right

i'm going to be preoccupied with that because that's a problem to deal with or to solve um so that's important because i remember actually giving an example i had to give a very important speech the day after my father died and it was really tough because it was like i was the only speaker at this event and my father literally died the night before and there were some friends of mine that said mark you just have to cancel it and it's just in my personality to cancel something that i've committed to

wow

and i was like can i do this can i actually get up on stage with 500 people in front of me and like deliver a good presentation and so i thought about my dad

My father would be like, son,

go make your money.

He wouldn't be like, don't sit on the couch and talk about me.

I'm dead already.

I'm joking, but he wouldn't want me to wallow.

He's like, go be productive.

I think that's probably when most people would be most curious about like, how do we figure this out? But before we get into that, I wanna break down this framework that you shared.

So you spoke about getting granular with understanding these emotions.

To our listeners and viewers, how does then that start to have an impact in the rest of my life by me being aware of these kind of granular emotions?

Well, there's a phrase, you got to name it to tame it.

So when you're feeling joyful and contentment, there's nothing to do.

You want to savor it.

You want to be with it because that's probably a great emotion or a set of emotions to feel during a recording.

But let's say before the recording, you got a phone call from a family member like, Cash, you're a moron.

You're an idiot.

Like, what are you doing with your life? And you all of a sudden you feel shame.

Right.

It's going to leak.

Yes.

Your brain's going to be trying to because our brains go to solving the strongest, most unpleasant feeling.

yes does that make sense so if i were to get a phone call right now that someone is in the hospital

right

i'm going to be preoccupied with that because that's a problem to deal with or to solve um so that's important because i remember actually giving an example i had to give a very important speech the day after my father died and it was really tough because it was like i was the only speaker at this event and my father literally died the night before and there were some friends of mine that said mark you just have to cancel it and it's just in my personality to cancel something that i've committed to

wow

and i was like can i do this can i actually get up on stage with 500 people in front of me and like deliver a good presentation and so i thought about my dad

My father would be like, son,

go make your money.

He wouldn't be like, don't sit on the couch and talk about me.

I'm dead already.

I'm joking, but he wouldn't want me to wallow.

He's like, go be productive.