What Is the Mental Load? Dr. Leah Ruppanner Explains the Invisible Work Behind Family Life

Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team. I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I provide as a Certified Financial Therapist, Accredited Financial Counselor and Fair Play Facilitator. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com. Today’s episode is the **second part of a two** part conversation with Dr. Leah Ruppanner. We discuss the eight types of mental load, how couples can share these responsibilities more equitably, and practical strategies to reduce stress and support each other's dreams. This is a must-listen for anyone looking to improve relationship dynamics and mental well-being. Enjoy the show. **Show Notes** 00:00 Introduction 01:41 What are the eight types of mental load? 02:31 How can couples approach understanding how to share life management? 15:24 Let’s move onto sharing the emotional support needed to manage a family, that is, checking in on family, friends, and coworkers.  18:32 A conversation about magic making. 22:08 What is dream building, and how can men help women fulfill their passions and ambitions?  24:26 Individual upkeep is how we stay fit and healthy. What can men do to make sure their partners have enough time to do this? 28:47 The next type of mental load is safety. How can parents work together to share this load? 32:22 The final type of mental load I want to talk about is meta-care, which is raising children who will thrive in the future. Walk listeners through how parents can balance providing our kids with the opportunity to thrive in the future, but not at the expense of finding joy in the process. 36:03 Right now you’re battling Breast Cancer. How has the American health care system impacted the mental load for you in this fight 37:36: Please remind listeners where they can purchase your book, Drained. 39:05 What is one simple and actionable takeaway you want to leave our listeners with? Lighten Lab: https://www.lightenlab.com/  More About Dr. Ruppanner: https://www.leahruppanner.com/  Purchase Drained: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/762972/drained-by-leah-ruppanner-phd/  #mentalload #invisiblelabor #marriagetips  **Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media!** Newsletter Facebook YouTube LinkedIn Instagram Twitter TikTok Substack