Author of _The Goddess That Failed__ Janice Fiamengo Joins Us!

Yeah.

Let's see.

This is interesting.

I want you to see what Herman Salas is saying because I want to get into your journey, because I mean, I grew up with brothers, right? I grew up with, I didn't have a sister.

It was just me.

And when I was younger, I very much was like that.

Oh, justice.

And I'm going to get even because the boys had more.

And I remember all that, but it's interesting.

I didn't wind up on the street with a sign in my spare time, screaming at people.

Herman Sal said, in the 1990s, I had a lunch that was going well until I held the door open for her.

She got upset and lectured me that she didn't need a man to hold the door open for her.

Any thoughts? And David in South Carolina said, I had that happen to me too.

Yeah.

I've talked to quite a few men, young and old, who've had that experience.

That's called benevolent sexism.

And it's one of the many grievances that feminists have found over the last 40 years or so, long after women achieved all the same rights as men to enter the professions and to hold political office and everything else.

They had to keep finding more and more grievances.

So benevolent sexism, which is when you might hold the door open or ask a woman if you're on a a business trip, maybe, you know, do you want me to take the wheel for a while if you're tired or whatever it happens to be to help a woman with her suitcase if it looks heavy.

All of those are allegedly signs of male privilege and contempt for women.

Of course, they're not.

They're examples of men wanting to be helpful to women, which I think is a natural and wonderful thing.

So I think that the way that women bristle at things like that is sometimes an example of women feeling that they have to find a grievance.

But there's something deeply hypocritical about it, too, because I think if men and women are in an office together and suddenly a masked man barges through the front door and starts to attack people in the office, I don't think the women are going to stand up and say, hey, men, sit down.

We've got this.