All The Feels with Pamela Pavliscak

**Are our emotions shaped—and even expanded—by technology, or are we just becoming more disconnected and manipulated online?** Dive into this episode as Kate O’Neill and Pamela Pavliscak explore the complicated emotional landscape of the digital world and what it truly means to “stay human.” **Topics Covered** - How technology mediates and shapes emotions - The evolution from tech optimism to algorithmic influence - Common myths about screen time and digital well-being - How emotional metrics differ from traditional digital metrics - Shame, AI use, and the pressure to behave perfectly online - New “neo emotions” and expanding emotional vocabularies - The algorithmic amplification of outrage - Persuasion vs. manipulation in emotional design - Emotional externalities and digital ethics - Future guardrails for emotionally-aware AI - Human inventiveness in tech-mediated relationships - Finding hope and vitality in the digital age **Connect with:** Pamela Pavliscak Pamela Pavliscak on LinkedIn All the Feels: How to Stay Human in the Digital World Instagram (@futurefeels) X / Twitter (@futurefeels) **Episode Chapters** 00:00 Introduction & Heart of the Conversation 01:40 What is the Future of Feelings in Technology? 02:25 Why Emotions Matter in Design 04:43 A Butterfly Story: Tech & Personal Grief 05:17 Early Tech Optimism vs Today’s Realities 07:39 Debunking Myths About “Screen Time” 10:00 Diaries and Meaningful Online Experiences 12:55 Metrics Beyond Time: How to ‘Measure’ Digital Well-Being 14:46 Shame, AI, and Tech Purity Culture 18:04 Individual Responsibility vs Systemic Change 20:17 Living in a Tech Ecosystem: What Do We Do Now? 20:33 Emotional Life on the Internet vs. Emotional Life with AI 24:17 Navigating Social Norms with Generative AI 28:41 Are Neo Emotions Expanding Our Feelings? 36:37 Why Does Outrage Rule the Internet? 39:09 Persuasion vs. Manipulation in Emotional Interfaces 42:28 Should Tech Be Accountable for Emotional Harm? 45:00 Needed: Guardrails for Emotionally-Aware AI 49:35 Staying Hopeful & Staying Human 51:36 Outro & Where to Find the Book