671: Is being “good enough” the secret to longevity? | Matt Bloom, Ph.D.

I appreciate your perspective and thank you for sharing that.

I think something that I've been thinking a lot about is also as a parent, it's important to live your life and lead by example.

And I also think it's very easy for parents to get lost in their children and their identity and all of it.

I get it.

I understand why.

But at the same time, you're human.

You need to do what's right for you.

And if you're sacrificing yourself to a certain degree, that is a detriment to your child.

And you're doing that child a disservice because your child is, or whether it's child or even an adult, looks at you.

And so there's a balance there.

And I think parents struggle with that of all ages, right? Like, you got to do you.

Like, if you're not doing you, that is not good for your child, whether they're, you know, five or 50.

So this takes me back to where we started.

You know, what are some of the keys to well-being is this idea of both and.

I can both care for other people and care for myself.

I can do what's good for you and do what's good for myself.

And sometimes those things go together, and sometimes you have to make a tough choice.

But that ability to navigate life...

And not just have a rule or not just have one set way of doing it.

Sure, of course you have to sacrifice for your children, but up to a point.

And where is the sacrifice detrimental for you? And where might it be teaching your child, you know, the best way to live is to give everything you have to other people and not pay attention to yourself.

I mean, so...

It's a both and, and we learn what's happening in my life now.

How can I process this with the important people in my life to make the small adjustments I need to make today and tomorrow to continue to be the best person I can, to care for myself and to care for the people in my life.

And there are no easy recipes.