Think about it, right? Who gets charged overdraft fees from their bank? Oh, it's the people who are overdrafting on their accounts.
The second thing is, is that there's a little bit of a frustration that comes when you're playing this comparison game of you're broke, but you're trying to prove to people that you're not broke.
And I very much had this because I had the brand name job, I had the fancy title, but I didn't have the money, and I did not come from a family that was going to be able to bail me out like that.
And so I would see some of my peers from college, they would be moving into an apartment that they bought, and I'd be like, "Man," like, "what am I doing wrong?" FYI, their parents bought the apartment for them.
And I think I got myself on this consumption hamster wheel trying so hard to fit in-
People feel like if you have money, you are a good person, you are a smart person, you do good things.
Like, you are not smart, you've made bad choices, you are irresponsible, and that's just not always true.
And I think keeping up with the Joneses, in my case, keeping up with all of the hot, flashy, cool things that were happening around me-
And last but not least, I would say the third thing I really wish I knew when I was broke was that you don't have to be broke forever.
My bed touches three walls, but it was going to be this beautiful Soho apartment, and my Sex and the City dreams were about to start finally.
Think about it, right? Who gets charged overdraft fees from their bank? Oh, it's the people who are overdrafting on their accounts.
The second thing is, is that there's a little bit of a frustration that comes when you're playing this comparison game of you're broke, but you're trying to prove to people that you're not broke.
And I very much had this because I had the brand name job, I had the fancy title, but I didn't have the money, and I did not come from a family that was going to be able to bail me out like that.
And so I would see some of my peers from college, they would be moving into an apartment that they bought, and I'd be like, "Man," like, "what am I doing wrong?" FYI, their parents bought the apartment for them.
And I think I got myself on this consumption hamster wheel trying so hard to fit in-
People feel like if you have money, you are a good person, you are a smart person, you do good things.
Like, you are not smart, you've made bad choices, you are irresponsible, and that's just not always true.
And I think keeping up with the Joneses, in my case, keeping up with all of the hot, flashy, cool things that were happening around me-
And last but not least, I would say the third thing I really wish I knew when I was broke was that you don't have to be broke forever.
My bed touches three walls, but it was going to be this beautiful Soho apartment, and my Sex and the City dreams were about to start finally.
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