1391: Punish or Praise the Budding Hacker You Raised? | Feedback Friday

**You nurtured your daughter's hacker mindset, and she turned it on you. Is her superpower a threat to contain, or a gift to guide? It's Feedback Friday!** And in case you didn't already know it, **Jordan Harbinger** (@JordanHarbinger) and **Gabriel Mizrahi** (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [friday@jordanharbinger.com](mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com). Now let's dive in! **Full show notes and resources can be found here:** jordanharbinger.com/1391 **On This Week's Feedback Friday:** - **You're an analytics engineer who's raised your 12-year-old daughter on *Darknet Diaries* and security books** — and she just used a broken keyboard, your SIM card, and a shoulder-surfed PIN to seize your Google accounts, then confessed. **How do you nurture her gift while teaching her where the line is?** - **You married a calm, quirky woman you adored, but since the engagement she's traded cycling for lying in bed, gaining weight, and waving off your concerns with talk of DNA.** Now your attraction is fading and her immigration paperwork is pending. **Is this really about weight, or something much deeper?** - **You grew up in a tight-knit family, but as your Boomer parents have grown more devout and politically entrenched in retirement, you've drifted toward ambivalence and a quiet nihilism.** With the big topics off-limits, **how do you keep your bond from shrinking into phone calls about the weather?** - **Recommendation of the Week: Darn Tough Tactical Boot Full Cushion Socks** — Jordan discovered these merino-nylon wonders at Burning Man, where they kept his feet dry through scorching days and warm through freezing nights. Knit in Vermont and guaranteed for life, could these be the last socks you ever buy? - **You took a three-week solo trip through Portugal, Spain, and Greece — seaside swims, stupidly good food, new friends, and a fling with an Estonian guy** — yet long stretches of unfamiliar loneliness left you shaken. **Was the whole thing a false paradise, or was that loneliness trying to tell you something?** - Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? **Drop us a line at** [**friday@jordanharbinger.com**](mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com)**!** - **Connect with Jordan** on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. - **Connect with Gabriel** on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here **— even one sentence helps!** - **Sign up for** Six-Minute Networking **— our free networking and relationship development mini course — at** jordanharbinger.com/course**!** - **Subscribe to our once-a-week** *Wee Bit Wiser* **newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!** - **Do you even Reddit, bro?** Join us at r/JordanHarbinger**!** **This Episode Is Brought To You By** Our Fine Sponsors**:** - **The Cybersecurity Tapes:** Listen here: thecybersecuritytapes.com - **ZipRecruiter:** Learn more at ziprecruiter.com/jordan - **AT&T:** Get an iPhone 17 Pro for $0: att.com/iphone or visit an AT&T store for details - **ConciergeMD:** 20% off all services/memberships: conciergemdla.com/jordan, code JORDAN See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.