Why Most Relationships Lack INTIMACY? | TIPS TO SPICE UP OUR SEX LIFE S5:EP12 Sex & Relationships FINALE

Again, maybe it's our conditioning, our programming, what we learned from our parents, what society tells us.

There's many misconceptions about sex and about how our relationship, if we come from that place, it can be harmful to our relationship rather than help it grow.

And I'd like to start with you again, Carlisle, about this discussion about the misconceptions that we may all carry, not realizing that we carry them.

Yeah, great.

Thanks.

Well, I think the biggest misconception is that there's a natural, that sex is supposed to be natural and that there's a normal way to have sex.

And a lot of people have this idea that, you know, if we're attracted to each other and if it's meant to be and if, you know, we're a good partner, it's all going to be smooth and easy and we're going to go into the sunset and we're going to have a perfect life and nobody is ever going to fart and everybody's going to orgasm when they want to.

And we're going to lubricate when we need to and erections are going to happen and we're never going to get bored and we're never going to get dysregulated.

You know, it's all perfect.

And so if we don't live up to this standard, what's wrong with me? What's wrong with how it goes? And I think this is part of the emotional vulnerability right, is yes, when we take our clothes off to say, like, I'm feeling a little nervous, or, you know, wow, I just had a flashback, can you hold me? Or I'm not sure what you like, can you guide me? Or I don't know if I'm in an orgasm.

And I hope that's okay with you, right? All of these ways that are just human, and showing up for each other.

So I think this idea that it's natural and it's easy.

Sex is a skill.

There's lots of different ways of pleasuring body parts, including vulvas and penises and butts.

You know, we can learn some of those skills and we can learn the skills of how to communicate, how to say no, that doesn't feel like rejection.

how to ask for what we want.

These are all really important skills that I think make a sex life so much richer and deep and meaningful and connected that I think just enhances everything.

That was beautiful.

Thank you so much.

Casey?

Yeah, I loved what you've said.

I want to kind of add into again a lot of this is going to come from personal experience and part of that was always having this interest in BDSM and one major misconception I think is good sex does not mean a good relationship just because you feel

better afterwards it doesn't mean that

relationship is good for

you but when it comes to BDSM from Before I even really understood it, it was just something I always wanted to go into because there was a sense of wanting to be dominated.