The Duratus Mind - Garry Banford - Founder and lead coach at Duratus

Yeah, that's fascinating.

A lot of research will say that your environment can shape a lot of your behaviors.

So do you think when you firstly got into the Marines and then into the SBS, that your ability to be resilient and got accelerated by where you were?

100%.

Put me into a experienced accelerator, I would say.

That's exactly what it is.

Just to go back a little bit, I was the youngest.

I had an older sister, four years older than me, which I've come to realize now.

taught me an awful lot when I was growing up of how to lose because naturally everything we did because she was so much older than me she used to beat me everything to a certain point and I became quite comfortable at learning but losing at the same time and I think that taught me a certain that's not tough that's not you know people live really hard lives I was really fortunate with my parents and the home that we lived in, it was really comfortable.

And they had a great, great relationship with their parents.

It wasn't tough, but I do realize that those formative years when I was growing up, being that younger child and constantly getting beat and knocked back was a real good lesson for me growing up to the point where I joined the military, joined the Marines.

And again, what's interesting, or I've come to realize and pick this, that I could have easily have selected any other military organization to go into.

I really wanted to join military.

from reading a book when I was in my teenage years.

It's Bravo 2-0 book, the Andy McNabb.

And that sowed a seed for me.

But I knew to join the military, if I'd wanted to realize that dream, that I had to choose something quite crunchy and more difficult, I could have chosen easier option.

And there's a golden thread I've come to realize with what I've chosen to do of not taking that easy option and choosing what you can see as the hardest option.

You learn so much more so yes the marines and one of the things the marines do with civilians when they young men when they come off the streets and women now is give them thousands and thousands of new experiences and how you respond to those experiences shape how you well you do in your career in basic training in the military and then subsequently in the marines in general and i'm a firm believer that i think we spoke about it before that experiences times a thousand makes experience and there's no shortcut to experience to be a Royal Marines Commando you need thousands of experiences to be able to wear that beret authentically and say I am that otherwise if you've shortcutted that you don't feel authentic there's stress within that facade that you've got to wear because You're not living your ideal self.

You're not presenting your ideal self.

And there's a whole manner of issues that come, I think, from that.

And I talk about that with leadership, with people that I work with.

But yeah, so experiences are the thing we always need to seek.

I'm passionate about getting new experience.

Yeah, I'm with you on that.