What if the goal of a disagreement wasn’t to win, but to make the next conversation possible?
Rachel and Jeana talk with Harvard professor Julia Minson, author of *How to Disagree Better*, about what happens when we assume we already understand the other person. Julia shares a late-night disagreement with her daughter that went sideways, why curiosity needs to be spoken aloud, and a simple “curiosity sandwich” for expressing your view while staying open to someone else’s.
They also explore why personal stories can build trust where facts alone may fall short, and how asking a follow-up question shows someone you’re listening. Whether the disagreement is with a child, a friend, or a colleague, this episode offers ways to stay connected through it.
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Other content to dig into:
- Read Julia's book How to Disagree Better
- Dig into Julia's workshops and research.
- The CBS News story about the four-year-old who brought his neighborhood together—Rachel’s show-and-tell.
