How to Let Go of Expectations That Were Never Yours featuring Elle Jaye

Join the Surfing Your Edge Salon at any paid level to participate in the 100 Days Experiment: https://kristine.substack.com/subscribe In this episode of *Surfing Your Edge*, Kristine Goad speaks with holistic alignment strategist Elle Jaye, host of *Evolving With Elle: When Capable Women Carry Too Much*, about questioning the “shoulds,” “musts,” and inherited expectations that can quietly shape our lives. Drawing from her own experiences with grief, divorce, parenting, career changes, and personal reinvention, Elle Jaye shares how curiosity, emotional expression, and conscious choice helped her reconnect with herself. Together, Kristine & Elle explore how to harmonize the many roles we play, make decisions from a vision of who we want to become, and gently stretch beyond what feels familiar by asking a powerful question: What else is possible? **Highlights:** Elle Jaye talks about how women can take on roles—daughter, mother, partner, employee, business owner—and unconsciously absorb expectations about how they are “supposed” to behave. - Questioning the expectations attached to our roles - Life disruptions can reveal where we are out of alignment - Your vision for the future influences the choices you make today - Growth requires stretching beyond your comfort zone - Curiosity and emotional expression can create space for change **About The Guest:** Elle Jaye is a professional woman, speaker, facilitator, entrepreneur, & host of *Evolving with Elle: When Capable Women Carry Too Much*. Drawing from lived transformation, professional leadership, entrepreneurship, & continued study, she partners with capable, heart-centered women who appear successful yet feel overwhelmed, second-guess themselves, or are tired of living by expectations they did not choose. A Holistic Alignment Strategist, Elle uses honest reflection, elevating conversations, & her mirror, map, and method approach to support women in reclaiming their inner authority, honoring their capacity, & creating lives rooted in their values. She believes evolution is personal, but it does not have to be solitary. **Connect with Elle Jaye:** Website: https://mailchi.mp/3ae59b526c7c/ellejaye Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellejayesllc Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElleJayesllc Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@THRIVEAfter **Elle’s gift for you: (max 50 words)** **1. 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Her approach blends coaching, adventure, experimentation, and wonder—shaped by experiences that include participating in the largest cross-country bicycle event in U.S. history, writing a memoir, building a business, and taking surf lessons to face her fear of open water in her late 40s. She is less interested in fearless living than in what becomes possible when we get curious about the things that scare us. **Connect with Kristine:** Join me for a Possibility Party: https://calendar.app.google/DsMvD6Atvdprf49U9 Substack: https://kristine.substack.com Website: https://kristinegoad.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kristinegoad YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@KristineGoad LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristinegoad Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristine.goad **Kristine’s gift for you:** Surf Your Edge: From Fear to Freedom This complete chapter from Confident You: The Raw Conversations traces two adventures, twenty years apart, and explores fear, identity, and why the real work of a life-changing experience begins after you come home. **Claim your gift:** https://tinyurl.com/SYEgift The Surfing Your Edge Podcast is proud to be on the **Inspired Speaker Network**. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Don’t forget to follow, rate & review. 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