What’s Really Happening to Our Boys? The 6 Factors with Dr. Leonard Sax

Well, you do need to install a parental monitoring app on every device that your son has that has internet access.

Netnanny, Custodio, Bark, or Kanopy, one of those four.

These apps work.

Jean Twenge in her recent book, 10 Rules for Raising Kids in a High-Tech World, In chapters 6 and 9 of Jean Twenge's book, she walks you through how to install these apps so that they do work, so that your son cannot uninstall them and reinstall them.

These apps work.

And parents push back.

You know, I've done these presentations for parents.

And during question and answer, a parent says, oh, come on, my son's just going to Google, how do I get around parental controls on that daddy? And I say, look, I actually spoke at NetNanny.

I met with people at NetNanny.

And they told me that they have colleagues whose full-time job is to Google the phrase, how do I get around parental controls on NetNanny? And if they find that a kid has found a hole, they patch it, typically within hours, and your app will update.

These apps do work.

And you must install them and explain to your son, I'm not gonna allow you to look at porn because porn degrades not only the woman depicted, but also the man who consumes because porn greatly undermines your ability to perform in the bedroom.

And again, there's a lot in the new edition about this, what researchers call PIED, pornography induced erectile dysfunction.

You know, for the last century that researchers have been studying impotence in a scientific way, it has always been the case that impotence is a monotonically increasing function of age.

Old people, old men are more likely to be impotent than young men.

That is no longer the case.

Today, almost 20% of college men are impotent, a larger number than among 40-year-olds.

I'm prescribing more Viagra for men under 30 than I am for men over 40.

Why is that? Well, it's because this 20-year-old boy has grown up on porn.

He's been looking at porn since he's 12.

He's ejaculated countless times to porn.

And now at age 20, he's in a bedroom with an actual woman who doesn't look like a porn star and nothing happens.

And I can tell you for these boys, it is embarrassing.

It is humiliating.

And many of them just want to retreat back into their bedroom with their porn.