Apr 29, 2026 · 35 min · 18 segments
What does it really mean to support your husband’s learning — and where’s the line between encouragement and pressure? In this honest and nuanced conversation with veteran kallah teacher, Mrs. Debbie…
Today, we're up to Pasuk Nan, and Pasuk Nan states, "Nod ba'sharim ba'al v'shavta im ziknei ha'aretz." Her husband is known in the gates, sitting among the elders of the land.
So this is the first time in Eshes Chayil that we hear of her husband, and when he is finally introduced, we hear that he sits in the gates amongst the elders.
The Metzudas David says, and we see this in other places in Tanakh as well, that the zekenim and talmidei chachamim sat at the gates.
So the Eshes Chayil's husband is one that is sitting amongst the talmidei chachamim at the gates.
And furthermore, the Malbim adds and says that she will hold her husband's hand in his Torah learning until he will be a great man and sit amongst the Sanhedrin and the zekenim, meaning she will support him, "hold his hand," quote-unquote, from the words of the Malbim, encourage him in his learning until he will sit at the gates with the talmidei chachamim and the gedolim.
This is supporting your husband in his learning, building him up in his Torah at its source.
The Malbim is teaching that word for word as us holding his hand, supporting him in his learning until he gets to a place where he could sit with the talmidei chachamim at the gates.
We know that one of our rules as an Eshes Chayil is supporting our husbands in their learning, encouraging, building up, and this pasuk points to that.
So I want to take this opportunity with this Malbim to really understand what it means to, again, quote-unquote, by the words of the Malbim, hold his hand in his Torah learning until he can and will sit with the rest of the talmidei chachamim.
What does this mean? What does this mean for us in 2026 today, holding our husband's hand figuratively to build him up so that he can sit amongst the talmidei chachamim at the gates? So today, we have a very exciting and apropos guest with us.
Today, we're up to Pasuk Nan, and Pasuk Nan states, "Nod ba'sharim ba'al v'shavta im ziknei ha'aretz." Her husband is known in the gates, sitting among the elders of the land.
So this is the first time in Eshes Chayil that we hear of her husband, and when he is finally introduced, we hear that he sits in the gates amongst the elders.
The Metzudas David says, and we see this in other places in Tanakh as well, that the zekenim and talmidei chachamim sat at the gates.
So the Eshes Chayil's husband is one that is sitting amongst the talmidei chachamim at the gates.
And furthermore, the Malbim adds and says that she will hold her husband's hand in his Torah learning until he will be a great man and sit amongst the Sanhedrin and the zekenim, meaning she will support him, "hold his hand," quote-unquote, from the words of the Malbim, encourage him in his learning until he will sit at the gates with the talmidei chachamim and the gedolim.
This is supporting your husband in his learning, building him up in his Torah at its source.
The Malbim is teaching that word for word as us holding his hand, supporting him in his learning until he gets to a place where he could sit with the talmidei chachamim at the gates.
We know that one of our rules as an Eshes Chayil is supporting our husbands in their learning, encouraging, building up, and this pasuk points to that.
So I want to take this opportunity with this Malbim to really understand what it means to, again, quote-unquote, by the words of the Malbim, hold his hand in his Torah learning until he can and will sit with the rest of the talmidei chachamim.
What does this mean? What does this mean for us in 2026 today, holding our husband's hand figuratively to build him up so that he can sit amongst the talmidei chachamim at the gates? So today, we have a very exciting and apropos guest with us.
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