Sep 23, 2026 · 1 hr 9 min · 11 segments
In this conversation I sit down with renowned psychoanalyst Dr. Galit Atlas to talk about her latest book, "Come Closer; Childhood Wounds, Adult Love, and the Secrets of Emotional Intimacy" where she…
Yeah.
That's right.
And, you know, I, I just think that's more common, and s- again, socially normalized because it's so widespread.
Just because it's normal doesn't mean it's healthy.
Right? And, and, and, you know, I, I...
Again, another part from that chapter that really spoke to me, when a part of us is completely banned from a relationship, our aliveness is emptied with it.
We unconsciously numb and deaden our closest relationships to create a sense of safety, to make sure we can stay stable and regulated.
And I, I wanna say, like, good behavior, right?
Right?
We keep harmony and sacrifice our life force.
We hide our needs and disappointments and lose each other.
And I think about how conditional, um, the parenting, the, the parenting love was communicated as, because so much of parents previously perceived their jobs to be behavior management and teaching.
And I will connect with you when you are acting easy and grateful and kind and regulated.
And when you need me the most, when you're dysregulated, when you're angry, when you're freaking out, when you're scared, when you're being whiny, right?
I will send you off-
... which is the most damaging punishment to a social mammal and to our, our nervous, our very-
Yeah.
That's right.
And, you know, I, I just think that's more common, and s- again, socially normalized because it's so widespread.
Just because it's normal doesn't mean it's healthy.
Right? And, and, and, you know, I, I...
Again, another part from that chapter that really spoke to me, when a part of us is completely banned from a relationship, our aliveness is emptied with it.
We unconsciously numb and deaden our closest relationships to create a sense of safety, to make sure we can stay stable and regulated.
And I, I wanna say, like, good behavior, right?
Right?
We keep harmony and sacrifice our life force.
We hide our needs and disappointments and lose each other.
And I think about how conditional, um, the parenting, the, the parenting love was communicated as, because so much of parents previously perceived their jobs to be behavior management and teaching.
And I will connect with you when you are acting easy and grateful and kind and regulated.
And when you need me the most, when you're dysregulated, when you're angry, when you're freaking out, when you're scared, when you're being whiny, right?
I will send you off-
... which is the most damaging punishment to a social mammal and to our, our nervous, our very-
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