Mark Wolynn

But when you work with ancestral healing...

So I studied ancestral healing, which is a form of counseling, with Mark Wolynn, and he wrote one of my favorite books, It Didn't Start With You.

And I studied with him, and I learned everything about how you look at these patterns that gets passed down through the lineage and, you know, who we become as a result.

Mm-hmm.

and welcome back to Reclamation Radio.

Today, I sit down with Mark Woolin in one of his first interviews in three years.

So I am so honored and so excited.

If you don't know who he is, he is the author of the foundational text, It Didn't Start With You, which put me on to the world of Family Constellations.

And I hope that this interview serves as a primer to offer you more compassion and self-insight and connection to your specific needs.

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Welcome, Mark, to the show.

Thank you for having me, Kelly.

Welcome to the Vital Veda Podcast.

I am here with Mark Wolynn, the founder and director of the Family Constellation Institute and the author of the international bestseller, "It Didn't Start With You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who You Are and How to End the Cycle." And what strikes me, Mark, is that your book came out ten years ago in two thousand and sixteen, and it's still going strong.

Like more than three million copies, translated into forty languages, revised again in twenty twenty-five.

It's clearly still relevant.

[upbeat music] We have a special guest today, and that is of three million copies sold, It Didn't Start With You.

And the author, Mark Wolynn, is a leading expert in the field of inherited family trauma.

As the director of Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, he trains clinicians and helps people struggling with depression, anxiety, panic disorder, obsessive thoughts, self-injury, chronic pain, and illness.

Uh, who doesn't have one of those things these da- [laughs] these days? A sought-after lecturer, he leads workshops at hospitals, clinics, conferences, and teaching centers around the world.

How do we tell if it's inherited?

Mark Wolynn is a leading expert in inherited family trauma and is the author of the international bestseller, It Didn't Start With You.

The healing we do extends backward, extends forward.

It's almost as though what's unresolved from the past sends the energy of the trauma, the contraction forward to heal, because it's looking to heal.

But, but going back to your, your question about shame and blame-

Yeah

... you know, I took a lot of heat for this and when I, you know, in the reviews when they said, "Mark Wolynn makes you heal with toxic parents." And, um, uh, yeah, but you don't have to do it in real time.

You can do it in your inner images, 'cause I did say that.

So I want you to n- notice which part of you is speaking the next time you make a decision about money, not what it decides, but what is it speaking? What is it trying to communicate? What is it trying to pr- keep you safe from? And this leads me on to the next book.

Because some of your strongest money beliefs may not have even started with you or a part of you, and that book is called It Didn't Start With You by Mark Wolynn.

This was published in 2016, um, how inherited family trauma shapes who you are and how to end the cycle.

Now, I'm trained in Mark's modality, and it is exceptional.

And it's not their fault either.

This isn't about blaming past generations.

And what Mark Wolynn does in his book is he gives you a really clear way to understand language, how to hear it, how to listen to it, um, to se- how to separate what belongs to you from what you were taught to carry.

And so I want you just to do one thing before we go on to the next book.