My ex husband divorced me after I told him this truth

A lot of times it's because I feel like I'm not connecting with my own body.

So again, anytime I'm ever intimate even with myself, I use it as a time to be really intentional, like connecting with my body, figuring out what I like.

Because I have noticed, though, sex with a partner is almost always better when you know what you want.

I remember even the first time I saw the word cream pie.

I, I was pronouncing it cream pee.

I had no idea what that was.

What is that?

I had no idea what it was.

What, what is it?

And this is what I mean by, like, the foundation.

We didn't have a really strong foundation, skipping a lot of steps, is that we didn't...

We connected intellectually immediately.

Mm.

But emotionally we never actually made that connection, and we needed that.

You need that to continue a marriage.

And so because that was never really...

I mean, we loved each other and we cared d- for each other, but I don't ever feel like he was in love with me.

And this is the quickie sidebar talk.

Marriage, no matter how difficult, how great, both people have to be on board.

It really is a choice.

You can fall in love, you can fall out of love.

Things can get really hard, they can be really easy.

You can be depressed, you can be unhappy.

Um, you can become a toxic partner.

But you both have to be in it.