Sep 23, 2026 · 25 min · 14 segments
Have you ever wondered if you’ve lost yourself by becoming the person you thought you needed to be for others? In this episode, I’ll show you how childhood conditioning, relationships, society, and…
Rob DialHost
In today's episode, I'm really gonna talk to you about why you really, as a person, and, uh, as someone who has an identity and develops a personality, why you actually need to lose yourself in your lifetime so that you can come back around and find yourself, hopefully find yourself, uh, in your lifetime.
Now, the, the reason why I say this and the reason why I'm hopeful for you, uh, is because you have now become aware.
If you listen to this podcast, you're somebody who's into personal growth, you're into self-discovery, you're into personal development, and you've gotten to the point where you realize that in order to make your life better, in order to improve your life, you need to work on yourself.
One of the things that you'll find throughout your journey of self-development, I've been on mine now for 19 years, one of the things that you'll find is that it's actually really the path of self-development is really the path of self-discovery, of rediscovering who you truly are and becoming more and more of your truest self.
Because when you look at the, the journey of life, you are in your truest form at birth.
They're, as far as, like, knowledge, they're knowledge-less about this world, but they're perfect.
They haven't been told that they're not good enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough.
They haven't developed thoughts, uh, 'cause thoughts come from language, and they haven't developed any of that.
And as I mentioned in the last episode, as time goes on, we are changed from our truest self.
We're changed by seeing advertisements and thinking to ourselves, "Damn, I must not be good enough, so I need to change myself so that I look more like her, so I look more like him.
Oh, my body doesn't look good enough." And, and really, it, it kind of turns into this situation where we mold ourselves into somebody that we think we need to be in order to fit in and in order to be accepted.
So we're conditioned and we're socialized to fit in, and that's from, uh, once again, everyone from our parents to every single interaction that we have, things that we see, things that we think, all of that stuff.
And so we're conditioned and socialized to fit in, AKA we are domesticated, right? And so what happens is, in this case, we break from our true selves, and we break away from the truest version of who we are.
And honestly, like I said in the last episode, I don't think that there is any other way.
I don't think that there is a way to raise a child that doesn't break from their true self.
If they're going to be in society, if they're gonna be around other people, if they're gonna...
It's just natural for all of this to happen, and it's also natural for us just to compare ourselves to other people.
In today's episode, I'm really gonna talk to you about why you really, as a person, and, uh, as someone who has an identity and develops a personality, why you actually need to lose yourself in your lifetime so that you can come back around and find yourself, hopefully find yourself, uh, in your lifetime.
Now, the, the reason why I say this and the reason why I'm hopeful for you, uh, is because you have now become aware.
If you listen to this podcast, you're somebody who's into personal growth, you're into self-discovery, you're into personal development, and you've gotten to the point where you realize that in order to make your life better, in order to improve your life, you need to work on yourself.
One of the things that you'll find throughout your journey of self-development, I've been on mine now for 19 years, one of the things that you'll find is that it's actually really the path of self-development is really the path of self-discovery, of rediscovering who you truly are and becoming more and more of your truest self.
Because when you look at the, the journey of life, you are in your truest form at birth.
They're, as far as, like, knowledge, they're knowledge-less about this world, but they're perfect.
They haven't been told that they're not good enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough.
They haven't developed thoughts, uh, 'cause thoughts come from language, and they haven't developed any of that.
And as I mentioned in the last episode, as time goes on, we are changed from our truest self.
We're changed by seeing advertisements and thinking to ourselves, "Damn, I must not be good enough, so I need to change myself so that I look more like her, so I look more like him.
Oh, my body doesn't look good enough." And, and really, it, it kind of turns into this situation where we mold ourselves into somebody that we think we need to be in order to fit in and in order to be accepted.
So we're conditioned and we're socialized to fit in, and that's from, uh, once again, everyone from our parents to every single interaction that we have, things that we see, things that we think, all of that stuff.
And so we're conditioned and socialized to fit in, AKA we are domesticated, right? And so what happens is, in this case, we break from our true selves, and we break away from the truest version of who we are.
And honestly, like I said in the last episode, I don't think that there is any other way.
I don't think that there is a way to raise a child that doesn't break from their true self.
If they're going to be in society, if they're gonna be around other people, if they're gonna...
It's just natural for all of this to happen, and it's also natural for us just to compare ourselves to other people.
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