Rethinking the 'one bite' rule
She realized a popular tactic backfires
May 13, 2026 · 46 min · 24 segments
In this insightful and practical conversation, we sit down with Katie Kimball, founder of Kids Cook Real Food and author of Kids Cook Real Food: Healthy Kids, Happy Moms, to explore the real story…
Katie, before we just jump right in, can you tell me a moment where you went, "Aha, what we've been doing with families when it comes to picky eating really isn't actually working"?
I love that you're asking me to eat the humble pie right at the [laughs] top of the interview.
Honestly, one of the things that I want my kids to gain from me, like in modeling, is that we're lifelong learners, and that we have to be able to say, "I've made a mistake.
I will now figure out the better way to do something." And so I had taught a concept called the no thank you bite, very popular, very common, for a number of years.
When I interviewed Dr. Kay Toumey, who's probably the foremost expert in the world on picky eating, she's absolutely incredible, founder of the SOS approach to feeding, and she said, "Oh, Katie.
It's wrong from its inception." And I thought, "Uh-oh." But I, I mean, I don't mind.
So the basic premise of the no thank you bite is whenever we have something new or something that a child isn't interested in eating, we insist that they just take at least one bite, right? So common.
And, and a lot of parents call it a no thank you bite, or they may call it a first taste bite.
I had taught it as the no thank you bite.And she said, "Well, first of all, the language is wrong because if we're coming at it from the negative and saying to kids, 'You get to say no thank you to this,' that, you know, that's not really the right mindset for an openness to trying new food." And I was like, why did I not notice that? [laughs] And also, the entire premise of requiring a bite to go past the child's lips, be chewed, and be swallowed is not something a parent can enforce.
This was mind-blowing to me, and it, and it has become really the foundation and the first step of everything I teach parents now, is that you have to say what you mean and mean what you say and follow through on it, right? That's, that's like primary in parenting, and if you can't follow through on it, you shouldn't say it.
So if we, if we actually, like, walk this through, what happens if you say, "Take a no thank you bite," and the child says, "No," and they continue to say no? The only way to actually follow through as a parent is to force-feed your child, is to force them to chew and swallow, and that's abhorrent.
Katie, before we just jump right in, can you tell me a moment where you went, "Aha, what we've been doing with families when it comes to picky eating really isn't actually working"?
I love that you're asking me to eat the humble pie right at the [laughs] top of the interview.
Honestly, one of the things that I want my kids to gain from me, like in modeling, is that we're lifelong learners, and that we have to be able to say, "I've made a mistake.
I will now figure out the better way to do something." And so I had taught a concept called the no thank you bite, very popular, very common, for a number of years.
When I interviewed Dr. Kay Toumey, who's probably the foremost expert in the world on picky eating, she's absolutely incredible, founder of the SOS approach to feeding, and she said, "Oh, Katie.
It's wrong from its inception." And I thought, "Uh-oh." But I, I mean, I don't mind.
So the basic premise of the no thank you bite is whenever we have something new or something that a child isn't interested in eating, we insist that they just take at least one bite, right? So common.
And, and a lot of parents call it a no thank you bite, or they may call it a first taste bite.
I had taught it as the no thank you bite.And she said, "Well, first of all, the language is wrong because if we're coming at it from the negative and saying to kids, 'You get to say no thank you to this,' that, you know, that's not really the right mindset for an openness to trying new food." And I was like, why did I not notice that? [laughs] And also, the entire premise of requiring a bite to go past the child's lips, be chewed, and be swallowed is not something a parent can enforce.
This was mind-blowing to me, and it, and it has become really the foundation and the first step of everything I teach parents now, is that you have to say what you mean and mean what you say and follow through on it, right? That's, that's like primary in parenting, and if you can't follow through on it, you shouldn't say it.
So if we, if we actually, like, walk this through, what happens if you say, "Take a no thank you bite," and the child says, "No," and they continue to say no? The only way to actually follow through as a parent is to force-feed your child, is to force them to chew and swallow, and that's abhorrent.
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