TEDx Talks

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So five years later, and I talk about this in my TEDx Talk, I had the insight that completely changed my life.

So five years in, after leaving the practice of law, I'm mediating this dispute in Santa Barbara between this divorced couple where they'd each spent $50,000 fighting an $18,000 problem.

They, they didn't despise each other.

And where would we get that naturally, right? If the world was perfect and everything was perfect and we were just living our best lives, where would we get that? And the reality would be our colon.

So I just did a TEDx talk four weeks ago.

And in that TED talk, I helped people understand that The colon is a hydrogen ecosystem.

Hydrogen is produced in the gut if our body is functioning properly.

So let's back it up a little bit.

And where would we get that naturally, right? If the world was perfect and everything was perfect and we were just living our best lives, where would we get that? And the reality would be our colon.

So I just did a TEDx talk four weeks ago.

And in that TED talk, I helped people understand that The colon is a hydrogen ecosystem.

And some of you probably know how it started.

Just very briefly, I gave a TEDx talk, Sobriety Rocks Who Knew.

Anybody listen to my TEDx talk? If not, that's your homework.

And even though I've been a professional speaker forever, I was really nervous about it.

Has anyone else given a TEDx talk? You need to do one, William.

You definitely should.

But it's the most nerve-wracking thing you can ever imagine because you don't have any notes.

So I walk in and there's this theater with like 250 people who had not come to hear about sobriety, right? They'd just rocked up because their friend or colleague or whatever was speaking.

It's not.

You said, you mentioned my TEDx before.

I really want everyone to understand it's a trajectory of behavior, and the savviest of abusers never raise a fist because they know they'll be caught, right? Or they, or in deep retaliation, they will do the most atrocious, horrific, you know, experiences of violence, right? Including femicide and filicide.

Um, but my abuser hit me once when we were young, and I think I pushed him back or hit him back, I'm pretty sure, and then he never hit me again.

And everything she said just really clicked, and it was because of her and, you know, other women that I had been working, you know, with in my community that really supported me and helped me to just kind of get out of that situation.

But, I, I, I, it, so it's, it's cr-incredible that you say that because I, I honor and I think it's amazing the work that Dr. Ramani does and the education that she brings to the table, um, of talking of narcissism and, you know, and family systems and what that looks like.

Um, you know, in your, in your TEDx that I'm a huge fan of, a lot of people, right, they have this idea, especially in our court system, of how the word abuse immediately have this picture in our mind of it has to be physical.

It has to be physical violence.

We've written a book, give a TEDx talk, run a business at three quarters of a billion dollars.

You got your doctorate, played in a jazz band.

How on earth does a jazz musician end up running effectively a $750 million company?

Right on.

Well, the last question, I think I'd like to ask this one.

We've talked about a lot of this, but I mean, you've had a great run, right? You've written a book, give a TEDx talk, ran a business at three quarters of a billion dollars.

You got your doctorate, played in jazz band, done some pretty cool stuff.

It seems like there's a lot of, on the surface, there are a lot of victories there, but I'm wondering what's the hard part that happened in there that no one knows about?

Welcome to Grasp Confidence Podcast, where we go beneath the surface into faith, healing, identity, and calling.

I'm your host, Tara Lafon-Gooch, award-winning keynote speaker, three-time bestselling author, TEDx speaker, and coach.

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You were sitting at a huge award ceremony and already thinking, what's next? What's coming next? I hear that from my clients all the time.

Yeah.

You know, they'll just stop off the TEDx stage.

They'll just come off a TV appearance or they'll just do some big thing or publish a book.

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And he reckons one of the biggest mistakes that we make is assuming intelligence protects us from making stupid decisions.

Well, in fact, being smart can sometimes make things worse.

And I think the thing that I should also say is there are things that are still on my bucket list that I said no to when I shouldn't have.

Like a TEDx was always something I dreamt of.

And when the opportunity came to me, I didn't look the part.

That was literally the only reason I said no is because I didn't look the part.