The Hidden Shame Men Feel About Sexual Problems After 40 | Dr. Justin Lehmiller

What I Discussed With Dr. Justin Lehmiller \- How men's sexual health and desire can change as they get older. \- Why erectile difficulties become more common with age and where Viagra fits in. \- Why sex toys can be useful for men and how to choose the right kind of stimulation. \- How to introduce sex toys into a relationship without making things awkward. \- What penis pumps can do for erectile difficulties and sexual function. \- Why masturbation and orgasm may have benefits beyond sexual pleasure. Chapters 00:00 Sponsor: OhMiBod 01:46 How men's sexual function changes with age 04:27 Why men don't talk about sexual problems 05:46 Erectile difficulties and Viagra 07:28 Sex toys for men 09:03 Vibratory toys and penile health 12:43 Finding the right toy 14:53 Introducing toys into a relationship 18:01 Penis pumps and erectile difficulties 21:53 Sexual activity and aging 24:15 Sex, orgasms and cognitive function 25:42 Masturbation and better sleep 26:55 Choosing and caring for sex toys 28:59 Researching sex and aging Show Notes Men's sexual health changes as we get older, but that doesn't mean we stop being sexual. In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I’m joined by Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a senior research fellow at the Kinsey Institute and author of Tell Me What You Want, to talk about men's sexuality, aging, erections and pleasure. We talk about what happens to sexual function as men get older, including erectile difficulties and changes in desire. We also get into sex toys, vibratory stimulation and penis pumps, and why these can be useful tools for men who want to explore different ways of experiencing pleasure. We also talk about masturbation, orgasms and sleep, and some of the research around sexual activity and wellbeing as we age. Most importantly, this is a conversation about taking some of the pressure out of sex and being willing to explore what works for your body at different stages of life. Key Takeaways \- Sexual function and desire can change with age, but there is no single experience of aging. \- Erectile difficulties can have different causes and shouldn't automatically be viewed as an inevitable part of getting older. \- Sex toys can offer men different forms of stimulation and can be part of partnered sex. \- Penis pumps can be one option for men experiencing erectile difficulties. \- Masturbation and orgasm can be part of sexual wellness at any age. \- There is still a need for more research into men's sexual health and aging. About Dr. Justin Lehmiller Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a Senior Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute, author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life, and host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast. Dr. Lehmiller is a much sought-after voice in the media on sexuality research and education. He has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and CNN, and he has appeared on dozens of international radio, podcast, and television programs. About Suzanne Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of Sex Advice for Seniors, a podcast about sex, intimacy, pleasure, and relationships in later life. Through her podcast, newsletter, and community, Suzanne challenges the idea that sex has an expiry date and encourages people to stay curious about their bodies and sexual wellbeing at every age. 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