Roots, Routes and Real Talk (R3T) Podcast
Aug 13, 2026 · 1 hr 6 min · 12 segments
Dr Rehana Sidat joins us for a deeply personal conversation about ambition, identity, faith, grief, leadership and what it means to write your own trajectory. She reflects on being the first woman in…
Rehana SidatGuest
Serufusa SekiddeHost
Hewan WoleHost
I wanted to drill down on one emotion, one piece, and probably being selfish here because I'm going through that as well at this very moment.
and you've talked about your um your second child uh passing away um very young as you said you talked about anything shared before that your sister passed away as well and i share that because i mean at this very moment like i'm dealing with when i'm one of four brothers but i had a very i have a very close friend same age who just passed away this monday and uh was was a tragic unexpected she was in the u.s has been very close friend of mine she used to call me her brother she's my sister and just passed away very suddenly and I remember I got the call and, you know, one of those calls that you it sounds so cliche, but those things that you see in movies or calls that you get where someone calls you that a friend of someone you're close to or someone you don't usually talk to and, you know, they call and, you know, like something is up and then they go like, are you seated? Can you find somewhere to see it? And I need to talk to you.
I mean, luckily I was in a room and, you know, our building and found somewhere to just, I mean, literally cry and compose myself.
And, but since that time, every conversation, everything, it's only been a few days, is a trigger.
And you talked about walking around and you took away the, you didn't want to see pictures of young children and such.
But what are the practical tips in terms of coping with grief, either personal or even when you're at work?
loss of my daughter was quite a big impact although outwardly I didn't show it so much because it's I just have a very outwardly you might think I'm very matter-of-fact processing but inside your you know you're totally broken the one in addition to my daughter when I lost my sister Manira she was 36 and we had three or four months to process the fact that she had stage four ovarian cancer and she passed that was really tough for us as a family and it's and what I don't I'm not sure I can offer any tips as such but I think it's being kind and allowing yourself to feel because everyone processes it differently even if I think about the members of my family some people some individuals were more vocal you saw more tears some of us don't have a lot of tears but actually there's a lot of internal processing and I think it's the conversations that you know Moving forward, it's like, what's the conversations I should have had? What's the messaging? So I think for those who are close to us, be it friendships, family, don't ever forget to tell them that you love them.
You know, I, I try, I say to my boys, I love them every single day because I do, and the words aren't enough, but show them through your actions because time, that time you'll never get back.
What, um, the reason why you miss them and the reason why it hurts is because God gifted you with their presence and you shared something special and that those memories that you hold bring you comfort and joy, but also pain because you have to, you're leaving that behind.
I wanted to drill down on one emotion, one piece, and probably being selfish here because I'm going through that as well at this very moment.
and you've talked about your um your second child uh passing away um very young as you said you talked about anything shared before that your sister passed away as well and i share that because i mean at this very moment like i'm dealing with when i'm one of four brothers but i had a very i have a very close friend same age who just passed away this monday and uh was was a tragic unexpected she was in the u.s has been very close friend of mine she used to call me her brother she's my sister and just passed away very suddenly and I remember I got the call and, you know, one of those calls that you it sounds so cliche, but those things that you see in movies or calls that you get where someone calls you that a friend of someone you're close to or someone you don't usually talk to and, you know, they call and, you know, like something is up and then they go like, are you seated? Can you find somewhere to see it? And I need to talk to you.
I mean, luckily I was in a room and, you know, our building and found somewhere to just, I mean, literally cry and compose myself.
And, but since that time, every conversation, everything, it's only been a few days, is a trigger.
And you talked about walking around and you took away the, you didn't want to see pictures of young children and such.
But what are the practical tips in terms of coping with grief, either personal or even when you're at work?
loss of my daughter was quite a big impact although outwardly I didn't show it so much because it's I just have a very outwardly you might think I'm very matter-of-fact processing but inside your you know you're totally broken the one in addition to my daughter when I lost my sister Manira she was 36 and we had three or four months to process the fact that she had stage four ovarian cancer and she passed that was really tough for us as a family and it's and what I don't I'm not sure I can offer any tips as such but I think it's being kind and allowing yourself to feel because everyone processes it differently even if I think about the members of my family some people some individuals were more vocal you saw more tears some of us don't have a lot of tears but actually there's a lot of internal processing and I think it's the conversations that you know Moving forward, it's like, what's the conversations I should have had? What's the messaging? So I think for those who are close to us, be it friendships, family, don't ever forget to tell them that you love them.
You know, I, I try, I say to my boys, I love them every single day because I do, and the words aren't enough, but show them through your actions because time, that time you'll never get back.
What, um, the reason why you miss them and the reason why it hurts is because God gifted you with their presence and you shared something special and that those memories that you hold bring you comfort and joy, but also pain because you have to, you're leaving that behind.
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