Ryan Jay Keeps Falling For His Friends

**The case of the guy who keeps falling for his female friends.** Ryan Jay has a problem. He makes friends with women. They get close. He starts to wonder if maybe they could be something more. And then, inevitably, he falls for them. It’s happened enough times that Ryan is starting to question whether he actually knows how to be friends with women without wanting to date them. So we bring in psychologist Andrew Smiler to help Ryan figure out why friendship keeps turning into romance — and whether there’s another way to do this. **Proxy’s fall membership drive is happening now.** If you want to help keep the show independent — and get bonus episodes, ad-free listening, live Proxy hangs, and more — become a paid member at proxyhq.org 🍏 **From the episode:** —  Andrew Smiler, a licensed therapist and the author of Clinical Work with Men: Understanding Masculinity in Psychotherapy**.** Find out more about his work at www.andrewsmiler.com. New to Proxy? Try *Bisexual Wife Guy* for a classic case, or *Taelor Doesn't Want to Have Sex*, about an asexual woman trying to figure out how to find the kind of intimacy she wants, without the part she doesn’t. Follow us on Instagram — @proxypodcast @yoweishaw Visit — proxypodcast.com Get in touch — [**proxythepod@gmail.com**](mailto:proxythepod@gmail.com)