What ended up happening with Jimmy? How did all this impact his relationships with female friends?

It helped him really clarify like who's friendship material and who is dating material.

And so he continued to do a lot of the helping kinds of things that he was doing in high school, but it was a lot easier for him to not fall for those women because he recognized this is the pattern.

He was able to say things like, she has a boyfriend.

I know she's not available.

And one of the things for Jimmy was that he wanted people who were able to make decisions in their own life.

Like he wanted a girlfriend who after a day or two or maybe a few days of thought was going to come to an answer and then be able to implement it.

Andrew, do you have any thoughts around when do you know whether you really should disclose and how to disclose those feelings in a way that sets up the friendship for hopefully staying together if the answer is no?

So what do you think needs to change and adapt? I know you created a framework

around that.

Right.

So in the book, Clinical Work with Men, I present a kind of a plain language version of what I call the multifaceted masculinity framework.

The original version that I was able to publish as an academic journal article.

So it's been through peer review.

And if you want to wade through the peer review version with all of its technical language, shoot me an email.

What would you say to that person?