Blood Memory #07: 19 Times

She came to see me every weekend without fail.

Supported me through all the programs I went through, everything.

Going to the board, getting support letters, advocating for me, being an activist, really.

we at one point realized that this was going beyond just a platonic relationship.

And I remember we were sitting there and I said, this is great, I'm delighted, but how are we going to deal with this problem? She said, what problem? I said, well, I'm robbing a cradle here, you have to be at least half my age.

And she started laughing and she walked up to the podium and got her driver's license brought it back and handed it to me and You know, she's two years older than me.

I Said what how can that be? We began to talk about marriage and what that would mean and

I didn't want to get married.

He would bring it up occasionally.

I said, you know what? I don't see the point of getting married.

I said, this is what a marriage is to me.

A marriage is something for society and in society.

It means that there's somebody there when you come home, when you leave, somebody to cook dinner for, to eat dinner with, to go to bed with and get up in the morning, to take the kids to school.

I said, you can't do that with me.

I'm sorry.

It's not your fault.

But it's very hard for you to be a husband and for me to be a wife and for us to have a marriage.

So I don't really care about that.

We talked about it in a very matter of fact way.

And we decided that, well, it would just make him appear more stable if he were married, you know, instead of having just a girlfriend or whatever.

So I said, yeah, you're right.

That makes sense.

Did you have a ceremony or how did that work?

Well, I guess you could have a ceremony.

We decided not to do that, and they didn't want me to do anything that would expose her to that relationship to me.