How to Quiet the Voice That Says "You Haven’t Done Enough"

Ep69: How to Quiet the Voice That Says "You Haven't Done Enough" | Hardcore and At Ease - powered by Others Over Self® You hit the number, and the bar moves. The voice that says "you haven't done enough" usually started with someone else, and you quiet it by practicing how you answer it. Host Shelly Rood talks with Carylyne Chan about where that voice comes from: a former boss, a relationship that ended, a drill sergeant who set your standard from a distance and never stopped. Carylyne shares the sentence she uses when anxiety speeds up and how she built the habit of saying the direct thing out loud until it stopped feeling like a risk. Shelly closes with the rule underneath the voice, "if I can, I should," and how Lived Authority replaces the old habit of waiting for a sign-off that never comes. CHAPTERS 00:00 Direct Truth Without Fear 01:02 The Voice That Moves The Goalposts 04:13 Meet Carylyne Chan Founder Story 18:55 Gather Inspiration To Calm Anxiety 21:55 Building Mur Healing Voice Companions 28:32 Healing Inner Voice 31:37 Agency Beyond Productivity 35:50 MST and Healthy Men 46:14 Murmur Features Explained 56:33 Lived Authority Takeaways IN THIS EPISODE YOU'LL DISCOVER ✓ A sentence to use the moment anxiety speeds up ✓ How to practice saying the direct thing until the world stops feeling like it will fall apart ✓ Why even a kind voice needs boundaries ✓ How to decline one thing this week with "That doesn't work for me," and stop talking FEATURED GUEST Carylyne Chan - Founder. Carylyne started interning at startups at 14 in Singapore, built and exited a machine learning company, and took a team through a $400M acquisition. She now builds Murmur - an AI voice companion for women. RESOURCES & LINKS Hardcore and At Ease Framework: https://www.OthersOverSelf.com Personal Mission Statement Workshop: [info@missionambition.org](mailto:info@missionambition.org) Book a Strategy Session: info@missionambition.org Mission Wildflower, twice a week for women with military experience: https://shellyrood.substack.com Affiliate Disclaimer: I only recommend products I genuinely use. Full disclosure: https://othersoverself.com/affiliate-disclaimer/ ABOUT THE HOST Shelly Rood is a broadcast marketing executive, military intelligence veteran and the host of Hardcore and At Ease. Through Others Over Self® and Mission Ambition, she helps ambitious leaders keep their edge without going over the edge. SUBSCRIBE & CONNECT Listen: Apple Podcasts / Spotify https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/listen | YouTube https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbwdY5eMeQlCbUmUIAmiiedzPazjuPBxG | https://othersoverself.com Connect: LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/company/missionambition/ | Instagram @TheShellyRood https://www.instagram.com/othersoverself/ | Twitter/X @OthersOverSelf Email: info@missionambition.org Rate & Review: Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts Work with Shelly: One-on-One Coaching | Personal Mission Statement Workshop | Team Training. Book a discovery call: info@missionambition.org