How to Raise Indistractable Kids

Your brain takes in 11 million bits of information every second. You consciously process about 50. The rest gets filled in by beliefs, and those same beliefs, the ones you don't even know you have, are quietly shaping your children right now. Nir Eyal is a former Stanford lecturer, New York Times bestselling author of Hooked and Indistractable, and the kind of person who will tell you that your to-do list is making you worse at life. His latest book, Beyond Belief, started with a simple question: why do people not do the things they know they should? The answer had nothing to do with willpower, screens, or discipline. It had to do with the invisible stories we carry about ourselves, and pass on. This one will make you think differently about your own brain. Press play. **IN THIS EPISODE:** 00:00 | The Limiting Beliefs Quietly Running Our Lives 00:54 | Why Our Beliefs Shape How We Parent 02:30 | How Emotional Eating Shaped Nir’s Life 03:47 | Why Distraction Starts Inside Your Head 09:44 | The Hidden Problem With To-Do Lists 09:52 | How Time Boxing Rebuilds Focus and Control 15:13 | Turning Your Values Into Protected Time 18:40 | Why Knowing Better Does Not Create Change 22:59 | When Beliefs Start Feeling Like Facts 26:11 | A Four-Step Method to Change Limiting Beliefs 33:30 | Pain Is Inevitable, Suffering Is Added 37:10 | How to Raise Self-Regulating, Resilient Kids 42:41 | When Manifestation Helps — and When It Backfires 48:35 | How Labels Quietly Become Personal Limitations 54:54 | The Best and Worst Parenting Advice **About Nir** Nir Eyal is a globally recognised authority on behaviour change and human potential. A former lecturer at Stanford's Graduate School of Business, he's the New York Times bestselling author of three books that between them have sold over one million copies in more than 30 languages. - Beyond Belief:http://geni.us/beyondbeliefgeni.us/beyondbelief - Indistractable:http://geni.us/Indistractablegeni.us/Indistractable - Hooked:http://geni.us/hookedgeni.us/hooked - Free belief change guide:https://www.nirandfar.com/beyond-belief-livenirandfar.com/beyond-belief-live - 30-Day Belief Transformation Journal:http://nirandfar.com/beyond-beliefnirandfar.com/beyond-belief - Website:http://nirandfar.com/nirandfar.com - Instagram:http://instagram.com/nireyal@nireyal - LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/nireyal/Nir Eyal #### **What You'll Take Away** - Why your to-do list is secretly working against you - Four questions that can dissolve a belief you've held for years (Nir uses his mum as the test case) - Why "I am" are the most dangerous words in English - The labels you put on your kids become the ceilings they live under - What the science actually says about manifestation - How to raise “indistractable” kids (it has nothing to do with screen time limits) **Connect with Nir:** **https://www.nirandfar.com/** **https://www.linkedin.com/in/nireyal/** **https://www.instagram.com/nireyal** ### **Connect with Growing Pains** Growing Pains is HoneyKids Asia's podcast for the conversations you want to have after the kids go to bed. - YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@growingpains.honeykids@growingpains.honeykids - Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/honeykidsasia@honeykidsasia - Website:https://honeykidsasia.com/honeykidsasia.com Hit subscribe so you don't miss an episode. If this one hits home, send it to a parent who needs it. *Growing Pains is produced in partnership withhttps://www.poddster.sg/Poddster, Singapore's podcast studio.* #GrowingPains #HoneyKidsAsia #MillennialParenting #SandwichGeneration #MaternalMentalHealth #DigitalParenting #IdentityCrisis #HighFunctioningDepression #Podster