Weekend Conversations: Building Rapport

I feel like people

need frameworks generally.

That's sort of my writing structure.

And so how does – let's invent this one out loud because I was thinking of some examples where like, you know, ask the teacher for a second shot the first time.

Yes.

When they've denied you five times in a row and they're getting annoyed and they're like, you know, you're great.

Like there is some threshold of how to figure out whether there's a cost.

Like there's no cost to that woman saying no. You'll never see her again.

So my guess is, if it's a one-time thing, there's almost never a cost.

If you're in a relationship, if you're on a team and you're asking if you can be captain for the day every day, eventually that could hurt you with a coach.

So help me give people a rubric here of how to figure out whether it's really a zero cost no.

And I'm not saying you shouldn't.

There are some no's that have a 10% or 20% cost that maybe are worth doing.

But what's the mathematical formula to figure out whether you take a shot?

So this mathematical formula is about to come from a guy who specialized in getting C's in math.

OK, so we'll see how this goes.

Right.

But I think my calculus would be step number one, decide what the worst possible consequence is.

Step number

two.

Hold on.

That's clear.

Yeah.

And what is the

worst possible