Why Love Languages Are Cancelled

Something, this is like totally out of left field, but just something that I learned about the other day, I was like immediately, "We must talk about this on the podcast." I, do you...

So you know, we, we talk, I feel like we talk a lot about the five love languages, and like it's a lot of questions we get around love languages and whatever, right?

Yeah, people love to talk about that.

Yeah.

I-

Which is weird, 'cause wasn't it invented by a Christian guy or something?

Well, this is what I was just learning about.

It was like-

Oh, okay

... invented by a pastor, and the, the actual book where he like wrote, where he came up with or like pitched the five love languages, which like we've known that this is not a scientific, like there isn't empirical evidence to support the fact that people have different love languages.

It's not a real thing.

It's more of like a helpful conceptualization of different ways that people show love.

It can help with like identifying communication patterns and yada, yada.

We already knew that.

What I didn't know is that this was created as essentially an argument for why women do the household labor, and like-

Oh, my God.

Give me a break

... women do all of these things, and men need sex, and that that's like just normal.

Wait, what?

And it's like that's-

Give me fuck.

That was like part of his original argument was that, well, men's love language is...

Like this is one of the examples he gave in the book was like a husband whose love language is physical touch, and a wife whose love language is acts of service, like she's gonna cook and clean for him, and he needs sex, and that's just like, that's just how they show their love, and that's totally fine and normal.

Ugh.

That was like a part of the core argument was that like these things are equal, that like doing all of the h- all of the domestic labor is somehow like equal to your husband having sex with you or like mowing the lawn or whatever.