#15: “If No One Ever Wrote a Book About It, Maybe I Should" — Highly and Profoundly Gifted Parenting & Career Transition with Mariët Hoeksma

Mariët Hoeksma (38) is the founder of HB Bubbelbus, aDutch company supporting parents of highly to profoundly gifted children, and the mother of three gifted children. She is also writing a book based on her own experiences and interviews with parents of highly to profoundly gifted children (IQ 145+) across the Netherlands. In this episode, Mariët shares her career journey from IT to becoming a solopreneur, and the story behind HB Bubbelbus. She talks about parenting highly to profoundly gifted children, the challenges parents can face, and the importance of understanding yourself and following your gut feeling.\** **TIMESTAMPS:** 00:00 Introduction 02:50 From university to IT: Mariët’s early career journey 07:00 Finding peers — and discovering giftedness through her son 10:40 What does highly and profoundly gifted (IQ 145+) actually mean? 12:00 Maybe this applies to me too — recognizing giftedness in herself 18:20 From IT to entrepreneurship: how the career transition began 23:40 “Just start doing things” — experimenting, learning and building a business 27:40 “If no one ever wrote a book about it, maybe I should” 35:20 Highly to profoundly gifted children: asynchronous development, masking & intensity 40:20 Parenting highly gifted children and parental burnout 45:40 Loneliness and feeling like the “odd one out” 51:40 Parents as advocates for their highly gifted children 54:40 Autonomy, boundaries & letting children explore 58:00 Stereotypes about highly and profoundly gifted children 01:06:40 Mariët’s vision for HB Bubbelbus and the future 01:07:50 “The better you know yourself, the better you can guide your child” 01:08:40 Where to learn more about Mariët and her work \* **References:** \- Novilo: https://www.novilo.nl/zelfstandigen-opleiding/ \- Mensa: www.mensa.org \- Triple Nine Society (TNS): www.triplenine.org \- Delphi Model of Giftedness: https://www.oya.nl/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/190702-article-Delphi-Model-of-Giftedness-ADJ-reprint.pdf(English) + https://www.oya.nl/producten/delphikaart/ (Dutch) \- Podcast: Hoogbegaafd De Gids (NL) \- De Ongelooflijke Podcast (NL) \- Vanessa R. Woods: President-CEO of TheInternational Gifted Consortium (IGC) *Research Center for the Highly & Profoundly Gifted* +podcast host of Room With A View \- Dr. Noks Nauta \- P. Susan Jackson \- Els De Wit **\*** **Support the podcast:**- If you enjoy *Choose Work*, you can support it with a small voluntary contribution (even the price of a coffee) via Buy Me a Coffee: buymeacoffee.com/choosework \* **Contact Mariet Hoeksma & learn more about her work:** \- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariethoeksma/ \- Website for parents: mariethoeksma.com  \- Website for advice and guidance for parents and children: hb-babbelbus.nl \- Questionnaire for parents of highly/profoundly gifted children (IQ145+) from all over the world: https://forms.gle/NBTToz14FPRaGNvv9 (in English) + https://forms.gle/gDYZsmb9fcXduRFf6 (in Dutch) \* For feedback or suggestions for topics or guests, email me at contact@heididelanghe.com **Contact Heidi - Coach • Expert in Giftedness • Mindfulness Teacher:** \- Book a free discovery call at ⁠heididelanghe.com/contact⁠ \- Linkedin: [⁠linkedin.com/in/heididelanghe⁠](www.linkedin.com/in/heididelanghe) \- Instagram: ⁠instagram.com/heididelanghe.coaching/ \* *Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. The conversations are intended for informational purposes and do not constitute professional, psychological, or career advice.*