Jul 22, 2026 · 25 min · 11 segments
On this week’s episode we’re talking about something so many people feel… why does it seem like everyone else has their life together in their thirties while you’re still figuring it out? 💖🫶🏼 ✅…
I really want to mention The Great Scattering, which is something that Mel Robbins has spoken about before, so I'm not claiming to have come up with it.
But I've mentioned it ages ago in a previous episode, but it feels very apt.
to mention now.
When you're younger, you're at school with people, you're going at the same pace, you're going in the same place.
There's not really that much comparison because you're at the same school, you're doing the same subjects, you know.
And then it gets a lot tougher when you're navigating like late 20s, early 30s especially, because people are doing things at a And she talks about the great scattering and she said that it makes friendships harder because you've not got the ease of seeing each other at school or like going out every weekend like you used to.
And it makes it really difficult to actually not compare yourself to other people's journeys.
And I think that this is something...
For me, because I really value my friendships, I get a bit worried sometimes that we're at the precipice of big change, which we are.
You know, none of my best friends have kids yet.
None of my best friends are married or anything like that.
And obviously, I would be so happy if any of those things happen.
But it still signals change.
And I just want to say that, you know, this is probably a very normal thing for people to be worried about.
And it's hard not to feel like you want things to stay as they are forever.
You know, frozen in time.
And we're growing up.
We are.
And it's a privilege to grow up.
But at the same time, the great scattering makes things harder.
Friendships are harder.
They're not as easy.
They're not on your doorstep.
You know, people have partners.
They might have kids down the line.
I really want to mention The Great Scattering, which is something that Mel Robbins has spoken about before, so I'm not claiming to have come up with it.
But I've mentioned it ages ago in a previous episode, but it feels very apt.
to mention now.
When you're younger, you're at school with people, you're going at the same pace, you're going in the same place.
There's not really that much comparison because you're at the same school, you're doing the same subjects, you know.
And then it gets a lot tougher when you're navigating like late 20s, early 30s especially, because people are doing things at a And she talks about the great scattering and she said that it makes friendships harder because you've not got the ease of seeing each other at school or like going out every weekend like you used to.
And it makes it really difficult to actually not compare yourself to other people's journeys.
And I think that this is something...
For me, because I really value my friendships, I get a bit worried sometimes that we're at the precipice of big change, which we are.
You know, none of my best friends have kids yet.
None of my best friends are married or anything like that.
And obviously, I would be so happy if any of those things happen.
But it still signals change.
And I just want to say that, you know, this is probably a very normal thing for people to be worried about.
And it's hard not to feel like you want things to stay as they are forever.
You know, frozen in time.
And we're growing up.
We are.
And it's a privilege to grow up.
But at the same time, the great scattering makes things harder.
Friendships are harder.
They're not as easy.
They're not on your doorstep.
You know, people have partners.
They might have kids down the line.
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