Aug 17, 2026 · 31 min · 14 segments
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about lending fancy waffle makers, witnessing coffee shop meltdowns, demanding raisins from coworkers, and much…
Nick LeightonHost
Leah BonnemaHost
Our first question is, quote, "I was very good friends with a woman, let's call her Lisa, for about six years.
We hung out multiple times a month, we texted constantly, and my husband and I even babysat her kids when she went out of town.
She stopped asking me about myself and would monologue for two straight hours when we went to dinner.
She also made some new friends and would call me and say, 'I wanted to hang out with them, but they canceled.
Are you available today instead?' I decided to talk to her about how she was not being a good friend.
After the third dinner where she didn't ask me a single thing, I told her that the way she was being a friend was not kind or acceptable.
If she was open to changing, I would like to stay her friend, but as you may suppose, she never reached out again, and we haven't spoken in nearly three years.
A year before we ended our friendship, I lent her our very fancy, expensive waffle maker so she could use it with her kids.
I have long resigned myself to thinking of it as a gift and written off the loss.
If anyone mentions Lisa, our other friends will chime in with, 'And she stole your waffle maker.' They say I'd be in the right to text her at any time and ask for it back.
In your opinion, when would you have asked for the waffle maker back? When I realized the friendship was going downhill? When I talked to her about the state of our friendship? I've run into her once in the ensuing years.
Our first question is, quote, "I was very good friends with a woman, let's call her Lisa, for about six years.
We hung out multiple times a month, we texted constantly, and my husband and I even babysat her kids when she went out of town.
She stopped asking me about myself and would monologue for two straight hours when we went to dinner.
She also made some new friends and would call me and say, 'I wanted to hang out with them, but they canceled.
Are you available today instead?' I decided to talk to her about how she was not being a good friend.
After the third dinner where she didn't ask me a single thing, I told her that the way she was being a friend was not kind or acceptable.
If she was open to changing, I would like to stay her friend, but as you may suppose, she never reached out again, and we haven't spoken in nearly three years.
A year before we ended our friendship, I lent her our very fancy, expensive waffle maker so she could use it with her kids.
I have long resigned myself to thinking of it as a gift and written off the loss.
If anyone mentions Lisa, our other friends will chime in with, 'And she stole your waffle maker.' They say I'd be in the right to text her at any time and ask for it back.
In your opinion, when would you have asked for the waffle maker back? When I realized the friendship was going downhill? When I talked to her about the state of our friendship? I've run into her once in the ensuing years.
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