Why Your Childhood Wounds Keep Showing Up in Your Life

It's like, the way I like to look at it is, like, if you're trying to...

If you're a swimmer and you're trying to swim faster, right? You're, you're gonna swim a lot.

You don't need to work harder.

What you need to do is you need to take the weights that are on your ankles off, and you'll naturally just swim faster with the same amount of effort.

That's what life is, and the problem is all of us, all of us, are walking around with weights all over our body, all over us, and we're like, "Why can't...

I've been working so fucking hard to try to do this." Yeah, you've got to realize there's things that have to be let go of to then become someone who is a high performer, or else you're not gonna get to your true potential ever.

Because if you've hit, like, 60% of your potential and you're trying and trying and trying and trying, it's not your potential that's the problem.

It's not your effort a lot of times that's the problem, it's that there's weights that you need to let go of so that therefore you can become better with the same amount of effort.

That's the craziest part.

So the thing that we all have to look at in is when we are triggered by something, it is my opinion that I think this is God's way, the universe's way of saying, "This is your work," because this thing that is being triggered within you is showing you where you're not free.

And so I've got to work at where I'm not free, because I need to become free of the things that are holding me back, right? And so once...

When I am triggered in some sort of way, it is showing...

Like, if I get into an argument with my wife and I'm triggered, it's usually not the situation between me and her.

It's usually a situation between me and something in my past that is not healed.

And what happens is over time, being a child, and mind you, like, I've, I've known this, I've taught this, I've f- read so many therapy and psychology and neurology books, but having a two-year-old downstairs is literally the, the...

I'm in it from the very beginning, right? Like, I'm in it in the most important stage of building a human psychology.

And I'm noticing ways that I could go down old paths that I know my parents would have gone down with me, and they...

That is then gonna build the same things within him that they built within me.

And mind you, my parents-

Mm

... built very, very good things within me.

It's not all bad.

Not trying to say that.

I notice the things and I'm like, "Ah, but I'm gonna choose this way because I know what the long-term effect of building an adult is gonna be like," 'cause I'm essentially trying to fix adult's problems that come from their childhood, that come from their parents.

So now I'm in it with the parent-childhood r- relationship.