Living with a Broken Heart

This week's episode is a tender one. I recorded this on Father's Day — three years after losing my dad — and I'm reading my Substack essay *Living with a Broken Heart* and riffing on what it means to keep showing up, keep feeling, and keep choosing love even when it costs you. I also make a correction from EP17, share a few quotes that have been sitting with me, and offer some practical tips on how to actually live with a broken heart — not just survive it. **In This Episode** - A raw check-in: Father's Day, grief, and why I showed up to record anyway - Correction from EP17 (*What is Love?*) on Ho'oponopono — what it actually is, and why it matters - I read my essay: Living with a Broken Heart - 6 tips on how to live with a broken heart - I have room for 3 new coaching clients **Quotes** "God breaks the heart again and again and again until it stays open." — Hazrat Inayat Khan "You have to keep breaking your heart until it stays open." — attributed to Rumi "Maturity happens when we learn to hold ambiguity: emotions that contradict each other, that don't quite make sense together. So maybe as we grow up, we get better at smiling when we cry, dancing as we grieve, being kind when we lose our shit." — Max Vallot "I haven't been feeling like myself lately. I must be growing." — Unknown **Books Mentioned** - Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents — Lindsay C. Gibson - The Road Less Traveled — M. Scott Peck - No Bad Parts — Richard Schwartz **A Note on Ho'oponopono** In EP17, I referred to Ho'oponopono as a prayer, meditation, or mantra. That was incorrect. Ho'oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice with deep cultural roots and strict protocols around who can practice it and how. It's not a phrase or a technique — it's a process for restoring harmony within a family, traditionally facilitated by a trained elder. A listener and Love Camp alumna who works closely with this community took the time to write me a generous and educational correction, and I'm really grateful. The resources below are a good place to start if you'd like to learn more. **Start here:** - Kekoa Kealoha on Ho'oponopono and The Pitt — A Kanaka Maoli content creator and activist responds to a "Ho'oponopono poem" featured in the HBO show *The Pitt*. Accessible, contemporary, and worth 2 minutes of your time. - Moʻo ʻŌlelo: Moʻolelo Hoʻoponopono with Aunty Lynette Paglinawan and Kaʻaiʻai Paglinawan — A grounded, primary-source conversation about what Ho'oponopono actually is. - Talk Story with Aunty Lynette: What Is The Hawaiian Way? — Not specifically about Ho'oponopono, but a beautiful introduction to Hawaiian worldview and values. **Go deeper:** - Hoʻopono: Mutual Emergence — Dr. Meyer - Nānā I Ke Kumu: Look to the Source — Foundational texts on Hawaiian worldview, culture, history, and practice **Work with Me** I have room for **3 new coaching clients**. If this episode resonated — heartbreak, grief, fear of love and intimacy, learning to set boundaries or make requests for your needs — this is exactly the work we can do together. Book here or email me for more information. https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/love-and-relationship-mentorship **Leave a Listener Question** 📞 415-494-9559 📧 [podcast@thelovedrive.com](mailto:podcast@thelovedrive.com) **Follow & Subscribe** If this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast.