Handling Rejection - How to Say "No" AND Receive a "No" - Bonus Ep for The Find Freya A Fella Campaign

But basically, for everyone that doesn't know, a bit over a year ago, Matt was messaging me in response to a couple of my Instagram stories and my content.

I didn't know him from a bar of soap.

I often get DMs from people and a lot of the time, I don't have the time and capacity to reply to everyone.

But if they're really, really thoughtful messages from someone who's obviously really listening to my podcast and enjoying my content, I'm like, fuck yeah, what a legend.

I'm going to try to And you commented on a post I did about the nonchalance epidemic, which is so wild that I was sort of thinking and talking about that maybe a year and a half ago and only now I'm like finally tackling it with this campaign and it's such a big theme of the campaign.

But I'd forgotten that.

I went back through our messages.

I did a post about nonchalance epidemic.

You responded to that.

We got chatting a little bit about what that's all about.

I think you were asking, do you think it's dating apps to blame or is it just a shift in how we relate and all this stuff? And I was like, sick.

I love having chats about this.

Yeah, I actually read a bit of the messages before because it sets up the context.

And it'll be interesting because you probably don't remember this.

I didn't remember this.

We're talking about the nonchalance epidemic and dating culture and

I'm just sort of saying like, you know, I think it's dating apps that have a lot to answer for, but also this huge shift in how we interact societally, which I think is mainly due to social media and all the common watering holes kind of going out of business.

We used to meet in pubs and clubs and at gigs or eateries and third spaces.

And now people just sort of stay in and they get over eats and sit on their phones and avoid eye contact.

People are finding it hard to even make friends nowadays because everyone's afraid to take risks and talk to strangers in person or afraid to be rejected or make someone else feel uncomfortable.

And I say it's a great sign that men are being more considerate about how their advances might make a woman feel, but it's also kind of gone a bit too far in that direction, I reckon.

So many men I speak to say they don't want to seem sleazy or make a woman feel uncomfy and that they're scared of rejection.

And so many women that I speak to are dying to be asked out or for a guy to make some effort.

And then everyone's lonely and disconnected and it's a crying shame.

And then I say, I think gender aside, though, that everyone should be taking more shots and initiating conversations, showing interest, aiming for connection rather than playing it safe from their bedrooms while complaining about how hard it is to find someone, even though it is very hard in this era.