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Double Standards in The Dating World & Benevolent Sexism with Dr Mardi Wilson

Sep 5, 2026 · 1 hr 12 min · 17 segments

This week in The Labia Lounge I have another Bonus episode for you as part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign! I brought on my friend and expert labial legend Dr. Mardi Wilson to talk about the double…

This week in The Labia Lounge I have another Bonus episode for you as part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign! I brought on my friend and expert labial legend Dr. Mardi Wilson to talk about the double standards in dating when it comes to how men and women are perceived and treated when they're actively looking for love and partnership. We chat about things like: - Benevolent sexism - How our vagina calls the shots and decides against men sometimes - Shame around being single as a woman. - Stigma around wanting a male partner while also being independent and feminist. - The difficulty of discussing vulnerability while actively experiencing it. - Reactions that can pressure women back into more passive dating roles. - Heterosexual dating norms that typically position men as active pursuers and women as passive recipients of romantic attention - And so much more - it's a meaty chat! Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! \*\** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Check out the camapign or get in touch here: https://www.freyagraf.com/find-freya-a-fella Try out Captain Spice's sticky chai here: https://www.captainspice.com.au/ Special thanks to sponsors of the campaign: - Moments - https://momentswellness.com.au - That's the Spot - https://thatsthespot.com.au - Heaps Normal Beer - https://heapsnormal.com - Smooch Soda - https://www.instagram.com/smooch.drinks/ - Ballard's Thornbury - https://carrot-jellyfish-7mgz.squarespace.com/ - Das T-shirt Automat - https://www.dastshirtautomat.com.au/ Get my FREE mini-course P\*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P\*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf\_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is\_from\_webapp=1&sender\_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf\_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm\_medium=unknown&utm\_source=join\_link&utm\_campaign=creatorshare\_creator&utm\_content=copyLink * * * Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week in The Labia Lounge I have another Bonus episode for you as part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign! I brought on my friend and expert labial legend Dr. Mardi Wilson to talk about the double…

“How Are You Still Single?”45:05 – 57:00

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But like, yeah, because we've become accustomed to women just acting like the cool girl with no needs and no expectations and no desires, you know, as soon as you step outside of that and go, actually, everyone else is pretending, but we do want love and it's actually okay to want love and it's okay to have standards and to be seeking and, you know, collecting data as you're dating and assessing whether people are right for you.

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Like, that's actually all going on anyway.

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People are just fucking pretending that they're not and that they're really chill and cool.

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And there's, you know, this whole pick me culture that has normalized that.

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So, you know, then managers like, whoa,

45:46

whoa,

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whoa,

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whoa, like chill

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out, stopping, you know, and I've

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literally like been coming up against this, this subtle version of this as I'm like going around and trying to put flyers up.

Mardi WilsonGuest

45:59

I've, like, gone

46:00

into, you know, bars and cafes and different venues and just am like, hey, like, would you mind if I put a flyer up? And usually they want to see it, obviously.

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And then, I mean, that's something that I find incredibly uncomfortable.

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I fucking, I just wish someone else would do it for me.

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It's heinous having to hand over a flyer with my fucking photo on it being like, find Freya Raffala, like, looking for love, blah, blah, blah.

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It's fucked.

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I hate it.

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And I shouldn't even have to feel that way because actually it's cool.

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It's cool what I'm doing.

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But, you know, when I've had a couple of different dudes think that maybe I'm hitting on them by doing that and they're like, oh, I've got a girlfriend.

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I'm like, yeah, dude, I'm just asking you to put a flyer up in your shop.

46:48

Like I'm not after you.

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Like what the fuck are you doing? How dare you? And then yesterday I like went into a bubble shop and the guy was lovely and he said he'd put a flyer up and he like looked at the flyer and then was like looking at me and then looking at the flyer and looking at me.

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And he was sort of acting really like almost like pantomime confused.

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I'm like, oh, here we fucking go.