72. The Pain You Carry Might Not Be Yours: How to Heal Inherited Trauma

**The Pain You Carry Might Not Be Yours: How to Heal Inherited Trauma** The heaviness. The anxiety. The exhaustion. The patterns you can't quite explain. What if some of what you're carrying didn't actually begin with you? In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend, teacher, therapist, and healer Natalie Gutierrez, author of *The Pain We Carry* and *The Pain We Carry Workbook*, for a conversation about inherited trauma, ancestral wisdom, and healing the wounds we carry across generations. Together, we explore how to recognize what may not be yours, reconnect with the wisdom already within you, and begin setting down the burdens you were never meant to carry alone. We also talk about why healing isn't a destination, how to honor your own pace, and what it means to reclaim who you are beneath the patterns and pain you've inherited. **In this episode, we discuss:** - How trauma and emotional patterns can be carried across generations - Why healing isn't a destination and there's no such thing as being completely "healed" - How to distinguish who you are from what you've learned to carry - Reconnecting with ancestral wisdom, intuition, and your own inner resources - Why healing can happen through the body, creativity, and practices beyond talk therapy - What it means to imagine and reclaim the most liberated version of yourself ## About Natalie Gutierrez Natalie Gutierrez is a licensed marriage and family therapist, curandera, and author whose work lives at the intersection of clinical psychology and ancestral wisdom. She specializes in complex trauma, racial trauma, and intergenerational wounds, weaving Internal Family Systems (IFS) with cultural and ancestral healing practices. Natalie is the author of *The Pain We Carry* and *The Pain We Carry Workbook*. Her work has been featured by NPR, *The Washington Post*, and the *Los Angeles Times*. **Learn more about Natalie Gutierrez:** https://www.natalieygutierrez.com/ **Books discussed in this episode:** **The Pain We Carry:** https://www.natalieygutierrez.com/the-pain-we-carry **The Pain We Carry Workbook:** https://www.natalieygutierrez.com/the-pain-we-carry-workbook **How to work with me:** https://www.calderonco.org/workwithme **About me:** I'm Dr. Vanessa Calderón, a Harvard-trained physician, Master Coach, and leadership expert with over 20 years of experience. My clients create meaningful results fast because we combine neuroscience, psychology, and proven coaching strategies to get right to the heart of what drives transformation. I work with leaders, entrepreneurs, doctors, and other professionals who want to elevate their performance, create lasting impact, and live a well-rounded, fulfilling life without burnout. This episode explores inherited and intergenerational trauma, ancestral healing, Internal Family Systems (IFS), somatic healing, self-reclamation, intuition, and how to release inherited patterns and reconnect with your authentic self.