How to Finally Do the Thing That Matters Most (Starting Today)

So let's start.

Why are you stuck? Why can you not do the very thing that is so important for you? Instead of reaching for the answer in your mind, just f- try this.

Just for a moment where you are in your body right now, not where you should be by now, not where your mind is telling you you should be, and you go into that overthinking, and you just don't feel the peace because y- we believe our mind has all the answers, all the insights, all the plans already, and it might be you've tried all of that.

But actually start where you are today in your body.

Choose you.

Carl Rogers, arguably one of the most important psychologists of the last century, proved something that changed everything.

He showed that in order for a change to happen, it's not actually a better plan.

It's not a better strategy.

It's not even more motivation.

It's acceptance, acceptance of exactly where you are right now.

If you can't accept where you are right now, you can't change the situation, and he called it congruence, closing the gap between who you've been performing as and who you actually are.

And this is really important because if you're anything like me, you might have had to perform to get through the day at work and be this person that everybody expects you to be, but you're maybe dealing with something that's horrific at home or something that's really hard, and you're being that strong one.

That's actually means that you're living in incongruence.

It doesn't mean that you're a bad person.

It just means the gap between you having to perform and who you actually are, and it's very tiring.

But here's what most people miss.

Acceptance isn't slowing down because a lot of the times I didn't wanna accept the situation because I thought, "Oh, my gosh, if I accept it, I'm slowing down, or I won't be able to change anything." But it's actually the quickest way to move forward.

That's what research has shown.

Always start and accept where you are.

Now, I know your mind is gonna be saying, "If I accept where I am, then, you know, how am I gonna fix it? I can't accept this.

I need to move.

I need to do something.

Otherwise, I'm never gonna move forward." That voice, that urgency, that is the old program running.

That is the one that says your worth is your output.

That's the one that probably tells you that if you rest or you are lazy, that acceptance is actually giving up.

So let's start.

Why are you stuck? Why can you not do the very thing that is so important for you? Instead of reaching for the answer in your mind, just f- try this.

Just for a moment where you are in your body right now, not where you should be by now, not where your mind is telling you you should be, and you go into that overthinking, and you just don't feel the peace because y- we believe our mind has all the answers, all the insights, all the plans already, and it might be you've tried all of that.

But actually start where you are today in your body.

Choose you.

Carl Rogers, arguably one of the most important psychologists of the last century, proved something that changed everything.

He showed that in order for a change to happen, it's not actually a better plan.

It's not a better strategy.

It's not even more motivation.

It's acceptance, acceptance of exactly where you are right now.

If you can't accept where you are right now, you can't change the situation, and he called it congruence, closing the gap between who you've been performing as and who you actually are.

And this is really important because if you're anything like me, you might have had to perform to get through the day at work and be this person that everybody expects you to be, but you're maybe dealing with something that's horrific at home or something that's really hard, and you're being that strong one.

That's actually means that you're living in incongruence.

It doesn't mean that you're a bad person.

It just means the gap between you having to perform and who you actually are, and it's very tiring.

But here's what most people miss.

Acceptance isn't slowing down because a lot of the times I didn't wanna accept the situation because I thought, "Oh, my gosh, if I accept it, I'm slowing down, or I won't be able to change anything." But it's actually the quickest way to move forward.

That's what research has shown.

Always start and accept where you are.

Now, I know your mind is gonna be saying, "If I accept where I am, then, you know, how am I gonna fix it? I can't accept this.

I need to move.

I need to do something.

Otherwise, I'm never gonna move forward." That voice, that urgency, that is the old program running.

That is the one that says your worth is your output.

That's the one that probably tells you that if you rest or you are lazy, that acceptance is actually giving up.