How Does That Make You Feel? The Psychology of Tackling Big Scary Problems

The idea that a thought from a year ago, 10 years ago, 30 years ago is influencing, I don't know, the way I see the world now.

I find that terrifying.

I know.

I find that like insane and terrifying.

And we all have those, right? I want people to feel proud and to feel like...

taking care of their emotional health is actually making the world a better place.

Because when we're better regulated, we better understand ourselves.

We're way less likely to, you know, be reactionary, yell at our kids, or I don't know, start wars, right? So there's like- For instance.

I can't, you know, I think we underestimate how powerful this can be.

And so although it feels like you're just talking, you're doing things physically to your body too well.

So let's imagine we take out one of those memories and we invite in some care and consideration.

you know, we do a visualization and we walk back and we interview younger Marcus and we ask him, what was happening in that? Like, can we just for a moment not neglect him? And can we actually go in and ask him gently, what was that like? And what were you feeling? And I won't take you there now because, you know, this could take like all afternoon, but like the idea that you- I'm there, Laura.

I'm

there.

I want to be mindful of like me trauma-informed, not to dump people into their trauma too quickly, but like we

can

integrate new care and understanding and self-compassion, which can lead to so much good change all over the place in your life.

So- But it can take time to get there.

It can take time.

Well, we...

I feel like I've taken you off track into...

I was going to say, I think I can make it through the rest of the show without crying.

Well, you need to pause and name your nervous system.

But I won't talk about your childhood anymore, I promise.