How To Stop People-Pleasing And Start Respecting Yourself

Yeah, it does seem like culture has more and more moved towards the compliance, just like the notion of compliance, that you're a good man, you're a good boy if you comply.

And I think that a lot of men, to your point, are maybe waking up from the unnatural reality Yeah, just the unnatural experience of being a hyper-compliant man.

And not even just compliant.

There's going along with the norms and whatnot, but then there's A refusal to disagree.

And I think it's become, I talked about this the other day that in, in modern culture and society, it's become a social norm to kill a relationship because of disagreement, you know, to just do like completely to cut that person off.

I'm not going to be in a relationship with you.

I disagree with you politically or whatever.

And that type of social incohesion, I think, is very strange.

It's very, very strange.

But I also think that for us as men, we have been...

I mean, I see so many men that have... been raised under the guise of compliance leading to some type of fulfillment.

Was that something that you experienced? Is that something that you see within friends? Tell me a little bit about that.

Yeah, I think...

I mean, I think that's the general way to go is to comply until success.

You know, it's interesting.

The Bill of Rights, all 10 of those amendments are framed in the negative tense.

Congress shall make no law.

Thou shalt not.

It is...

Freedom only exists with the ability to say no. And... we've demonized saying no.

And of course the consequences is when you remove the ability to disagree, it doesn't occur.

And then when it does occur, it occurs unhealthily.

And it becomes an example of like, you see why you can't disagree, but because there's been no healthy way to disagree, like a gentleman would to say like, respectfully, no, I'm not doing that.

Because we've either made it to where you have to agree with everything or you have to be an ass about it.

We've now completely removed it from the vernacular of how we interact socially.