I Lost My Home, My Job... Then Nearly Lost My Life | Gai O'Dwyer on Resilience, Motherhood & Mindset

And you

assisted me on a much like more personal scale than that.

I mean, Gay actually met my husband walking the dog along the beach.

That's how they met.

So again, communication, you know, they just are the type of people who happily have a conversation with each other and I could see that, speaking to both of

them.

Of course you started speaking randomly on the beach.

Yeah, and Jeremy knows that I'm into a lot of mindset things.

He's like, oh, you have to meet this girl that I met walking on – woman I met walking on the beach.

she's into mindset things and I was just about to have my wedding and I after talking to Gay I was like you can help me then because I really want to stay super present for my wedding day and I'm worried that when I get up there to say my speech and I'm going to be so overwhelmed I'm not going to take in one of the most important days of my life so Gay helped me out with that and gave me a flow state meditation that you had touched on before about being in flow state that I could listen to that we worked on together I listened to it every day up to the wedding and it had a profound impact on me because I As I had imagined myself walking down the aisle, making eye contact with every single person that I loved and cared for, feeling their vibes coming to me, feeling my vibes of love going to my husband, being surrounded by love.

And it was such a beautiful way to prepare my mind for the experience that I really wanted to have.

And then again, after my miscarriage, I couldn't think of anybody else that I wanted when I decided I wanted to have a blessing way for my daughter Layla now.

I asked Gay if she would come and host that and we did similar kind of preparations to build that into something really meaningful that I could hold with me and feel the weight of reverence that I really wanted to have on that moment and you helped me with that.

But I'd love for you to explain a little bit about that flow state meditation and for people who struggle to stay present in big moments in life, what were you kind of guiding me to practice and do mentally that other people might be able to implement?

Yeah.

So super good question.

So when we talk about flow, it's really in the zone and it doesn't, you don't have to be a high performing person and it can be like mothers, you know, we get so distracted.

So sometimes like we can miss things.

So in terms of big moments in life and focus for me, it's being able to have deep gratitude for these small things.

Yeah.

And if you can grab hold of the smallest things, like a coffee or whatever it is, and you have gratitude for that, then you will have continued gratitude for the bigger things.

When it comes to In The Zone...

Often people will be like, I made a poor decision.

It was a decision issue.

Well, it's not usually a decision issue.