How to Respond to "You're So Busy" (And What to Ask Instead)

Oh, as I reflect on that conversation with you, I have to tell you something just between us.

Right in the middle of that conversation, I said to her, please tell me that somewhere in here, Catherine de Decker has found a way to be at ease.

And a few minutes later, I called her life.

Where's Waldo? Except, you know, Waldo was Catherine.

Where's Catherine? I said both of these things with so much love and I still did the exact same thing that I can't stand.

I alluded to that phrase, you're so busy.

I looked at a woman who plans her own life on purpose and I told her that she was too busy.

I don't like this because I know how it feels when someone says that to me and my immediate response is, I planned it that way.

So when I did this to Catherine, she took it in stride like the professional she is.

She skipped right over trying to explain it and she never apologized for being too busy.

She just told me how she makes time for herself.

And she said it like it was the most natural thing in the world because for her it is.

She does make time for herself.

Here's what I want you to hear from her.

Her calendar is full because she filled it.

And the time she takes to recharge, it lives right inside that full calendar.

She's not waiting on some quiet season.

And she also said something that I keep replaying.

She said, what recharges you works on an individual basis.

Your way to recharge doesn't have to look like mine or your best friend's or anyone else's.

And I really hope that you caught this part of that conversation when she said she won't hold herself back waiting for someone else to come along.

That's being true to yourself.

And she also won't hold them back from doing the things that recharge them either.

Katherine gets to decide where her capabilities go, and so do you.

So let's do this work together this week.