Will You Be My Friend? Why That Question Gets Harder as You Get Older with Kara Veach: EP 229

If you have ever moved to a new place, sat alone at a sports game, or wondered why making friends as a grown woman feels so impossibly hard — this episode was made for you. Kate and Rebecca sit down with Kara Veach, pastor, speaker, writer, and mom of three who recently uprooted her family from North Seattle to plant Discover Church in San Marcos, California. Kara knows firsthand what it feels like to start from zero — and she has been thinking deeply about why adult friendships are so hard and what to actually do about it. She is the author of Walking Upside Down and is currently writing her second book, Will You Be My Friend?, which explores how to cultivate meaningful friendships through every season of life. This conversation is honest, practical, and full of the kind of wisdom that makes you want to text someone you have been meaning to reach out to. * * * **About Kara:** Kara Veach is a pastor, speaker, writer, and mom of three who is passionate about helping women build authentic friendships and vibrant communities. She and her husband Kyle have been in pastoral ministry since 2010 and planted Discover Church in San Marcos, California in the fall of 2025. She is the author of Walking Upside Down and is currently writing Will You Be My Friend? Find her at @karaveach on Instagram. * * * **In This Episode:** - Moving from North Seattle to San Marcos with three kids in the middle of middle school and elementary school  and how they involved the kids in the decision - Why adult friendships are so much harder than childhood friendships  and what we lose when we leave the built-in proximity of school and sports - Will You Be My Friend? Says no adult ever — the premise of Kara’s upcoming book and why we have completely lost the ability to just ask - Robin Dunbar’s friendship circles — your five, your fifteen, your fifty — and what Jesus’s three and twelve actually teach us about friendship - Friends come for a reason, a season, or forever and why not every friendship death is a failure - What we get wrong about conflict in friendships — ghosting, drifting, and filling in the blanks with the worst possible story - In the absence of communication, people always fill in the blanks with something bad - When to let something go and when to actually have the conversation - What we actually miss out on when we stay home in our sweatpants and skip community * * * **Resources Mentioned:** Walking Upside Down by Kara Veach — available on Amazon at https://a.co/d/0g74dKtk * * * **Connect With Kara:** @karaveach on Instagram Discover Church — discoverchurchsd.com | @discoverchurchsd * * * **Connect With Us:** gathermoms.com | @gathermoms | Join our Patreon at gathermoms.comermoms | Join our Patreon at gathermoms.comm | @gathermoms | Join our Patreon at gathermoms.com Gather Moms: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Kate Henderson: Instagram | Facebook Rebecca Bradford: Instagram | Facebook