Enneagram of Personality

Welcome back to my channel.

My name is Dr. Tom Lahue, and we're gonna be talking about happiness today, a topic that is of great interest to me, probably because I'm an Enneagram seven.

But this actually is a very difficult and challenging subject when you actually study what happiness is, what joy is, what the difference is, and we're gonna just look at it today from the perspective of the Enneagram.

Um, what I find and discover is that most of us delay happiness.

It's like, "One day, when I get what I want, when the world's right, when everybody treats me the way I think they should, when all the circumstances are right, then, and only then, will I truly be happy." So happiness becomes something that's deferred.

We think that that next goal, that next accomplishment, as soon as we get that basement organized, then we'll be able to rest, then we're gonna be satisfied, then we're gonna be happy.

But sometimes that never really comes, and life can get really challenging and discouraging and difficult sometimes.

So we're going to, in our little laboratory of happiness, we're going to dissect this subject and look at it from the perspective of each of the Enneagram types.

The Baines family brand was essentially, what if HGTV and Jesus had a baby? Caspian Randolph III limped on stage next, still not completely healed from his shot-up scrotum that had been pilloried by paintballs in the previous episode's challenge.

Caspian's voting demographic was bolstered by the niche alliance of martial arts dads and youth pastors who thought the Enneagram was witchcraft, but somehow found Caspian's nascent Magirati—magic and karate—theology as both inspirational and acceptable.

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So we do spend a unit talking about personality types and also learning types.

One large influence of me sort of delving into this also was, I can't remember exactly the year, but Steven Pierce, who's at USC, had published an article in AMT about using the Enneagram.

which I hadn't heard of as another like personality, you know, kind of testing and how he uses in his studio.

And I remember seeing that thinking, oh, this is so unexpected to see in, you know, a piano teaching magazine, but I found it really interesting.

And so I had the pre like last couple of times I taught pedagogy, always incorporated that article into, as well as I remember in my pedagogy textbook, the Martha Baker Jordan one, there's, I can't remember the system now, but like just talk about, are you, is your student a dolphin or a bear or, you know, there's all sorts of sort of like these systems or quizzes in place to sort of like help you understand how people learn, right? Because I think, you know, humans love to sort of categorize things sometimes you know and so and there's so many different systems of that and so we spend a unit about it of how like these are ways that you can help you know teach or connect with someone but again they're also theories right and so they're not the law they're not the mlb all but these are just ways to help you think about how to engage with a wide variety of personalities that you'll encounter because you'll definitely encounter people who aren't like you so

yeah for sure and i think it's human nature to be interested in ourselves, for lack of a better word, and like finding out, you know, we always, in my generation, you know, did the Cosmo quiz where you like, I don't know what, whatever are you? So it's kind of the same thing with all these personality tests.

Like I, I'm interested in the Enneagram.

I don't know a ton about it, but I think it's fascinating.

Yes, she's a disruptor, which is good.

I mean, I swear this should be like an Enneagram test.

You guys like Enneagram.

It's almost like that.

Like, I wonder if we could give, not right now, but give each character an Enneagram and see if it matches up with ours.

My mom is watching and she says my thing is spot on.

Okay.

I don't know much about them, but I am excited.

But Matt is also a pastor and spiritual director and Enneagram coach, and he's a co-host of Stay Curious podcast.

And I'm just really excited to talk about faith and hardcore and anger and spirituality and emotional honesty.

So, yeah, I'm stoked.

I actually want to know, I want to know more about.

Um, cause I was actually, I was actually going to talk about this digital loneliness and you've already really pretty much said everything about it, but I'm actually interested in your work that you do.

Like you being a spiritual director, you're doing Enneagram work.

Like I'm, I'm just interested in people.

Like I have everything that is like, oh my God, no.

Like Enneagram number three.

Like any way you look at me, you're like, oh, this woman is very stressed.

um so cooking is the one thing that really decompresses me that i truly unplug my mind well obviously also like a sound bath or something eventually i can relax but but i would say cooking is something that i love i mean i try to do meditation um i mean even doom scrolling there are moments that i'm like i've had such an intense day that i need to go on my pinterest and just look at whatever be happy with a flower on the boards just with my finger but yeah I mean I I I'm trying to be better I would I've never been the example of somebody who puts I'm trying to now not put myself at the end of my to-do list but I've definitely done that throughout my life and now I'm trying to not feel guilty for prioritizing rest or for prioritizing a vacation or for prioritizing going to the gym at maybe a time that I feel like, oh, could I really take a class at this time? It's too early.

Jessie's a newer friend, but I'm really invested in her because I just think she's gold.

Jesse, if you know the Enneagram, she's an eight on the Enneagram.

Jesse will read your mail, tell you who you are, kind of smack you upside the head in love.

And everything is blunt and true and awesome.

These are archetypes that can be explored actually and studied.

And even the Enneagram talks about this, like where does our ego get stuck? For example, let's say you're always in a helper mode.

That's your habitual story, right? I always have to help.

That's my role.

What are your next steps? Where do you want to grow from here?

So, rather than next steps, probably the ultimate goal is who, a lot of people have heard of the sort of my, and the DISC, and the Enneagram, so those personality assessments that are quite globally recognized, and most of those are around personality, not sincerity values.

So, the vision that I have for the work that I do is for, particularly the assessment tools, to be on a par with sort of the Myers-Briggs and the DISC profile as the values tool of choice across the world.

But in terms of next steps, it's really just to keep growing and get more and more organisations, coaches and consultants using the tools.