Stewarding Your Engagement for the Glory of God (Nearly-weds and Newlyweds, 2 of 3)

Now, we started Fierce Marriage 13 years ago.

We were 10 years married and we've grown a lot in our doctrine.

We had initially five pillars and now we have seven.

Thank you, Lord.

Seven is the number of perfection.

And why would you call these pillars? So

if you've sided your home and you've built your foundation, now this is the structure you're now building.

And these are the things that are going to keep the roof up, so to speak.

Right.

And if you remove any one of these pillars, maybe the others keep it going for a little while, but they're all necessary for the strongest structure you can possibly have.

And then again, talking to engaged couples, this is, you're building the structure.

And then when you get married, you move into it and you begin to live in the full glories of it.

We've broken down these seven pillars into three subcategories, if you will, or clusters.

We've got the first category is identity and structure.

The second one is relational.

And the third one is stewardship.

Now, under identity and structure, this is absolutely important, right, to understand this and be on the same page about this.

And the first big pillar is roles.

What are your expectations for roles? In other words, how will you coexist? Now, biblically, we have headship and submission.

And I would argue, and have argued this a lot on the Fierce Men side, that these are immutable.

It's part of who we are as creational beings.

Now, you get into the theological weeds a little bit.

Ontologically, that's the study of being.

Ontologically, you and I are the same.

We're made in the image of God.