Jul 23, 2026 · 50 min · 10 segments
Todayyy we talk about getting rid of resentment and about a certain way to minimize this from happening in your relationships. I first talk about some dubs and L's from the past few weeks. Then I go…
I'm excited to talk about what we're gonna talk about, which is building resentment and learning to, A, slowly let go of that resentment and turn it into something else, and B, we're talking about how to not build it in the first place as much as possible.
Life is complicated, and sometimes we're not on our A game in terms of being super introspective and self-aware.
So this isn't to add something else to the list of all the things that you should be doing better, whatever.
This is something that I think a lot of us feel very deeply about, that we really internally want to experience less resentment in our relationships and more love and openness and connection.
Like, who doesn't want that? Now, there actually are a lot of people who probably don't want that, who- who- who want to hold onto their resentment because they believe, like sometimes we believe that it's helping us in some way, or it's protecting us, or it's serving us.
There might be a time where it does really genuinely feel like it is helping you.
I don't think resentment, to me at least, has ever felt productive.
Other than the feeling of hurt or resentment or the feeling of something, trying to figure out what I can do to make that transform into a feeling of love and something else, that's what's productive.
So I think to ignore resentment and to act like it's not happening and to, you know, slide it under the rug, that's not helpful.
That's not, I th- that's not gonna be a place where we are able to have a deep connection with our partner, with our spouse, with our girlfriend, boyfriend, whoever it is.
Sometimes it can also be with family members, like a mom, a dad, different people.
Sometimes when you get older, especially in your 20s, I feel like there's just, I see a lot of people talk about how they struggle with their, like a relationship with their parents.
So I know that's also a big one.
Um, I'm gonna talk about mostly romantic relationships and resentment that can rise within that, but I, uh, the same principle and the same ideas that I [laughs] am talking about can apply to, obviously, anybody because they're just, because it's the same principle just applied to different relationships and different dynamics.
Something in particular within building resentment that I wanted to talk about, I think on, and in this, on both ends of this situation, is the idea of n- like asking someone over and over again to do something or being on the receiving end of someone feeling like they're nagging you.
I'm excited to talk about what we're gonna talk about, which is building resentment and learning to, A, slowly let go of that resentment and turn it into something else, and B, we're talking about how to not build it in the first place as much as possible.
Life is complicated, and sometimes we're not on our A game in terms of being super introspective and self-aware.
So this isn't to add something else to the list of all the things that you should be doing better, whatever.
This is something that I think a lot of us feel very deeply about, that we really internally want to experience less resentment in our relationships and more love and openness and connection.
Like, who doesn't want that? Now, there actually are a lot of people who probably don't want that, who- who- who want to hold onto their resentment because they believe, like sometimes we believe that it's helping us in some way, or it's protecting us, or it's serving us.
There might be a time where it does really genuinely feel like it is helping you.
I don't think resentment, to me at least, has ever felt productive.
Other than the feeling of hurt or resentment or the feeling of something, trying to figure out what I can do to make that transform into a feeling of love and something else, that's what's productive.
So I think to ignore resentment and to act like it's not happening and to, you know, slide it under the rug, that's not helpful.
That's not, I th- that's not gonna be a place where we are able to have a deep connection with our partner, with our spouse, with our girlfriend, boyfriend, whoever it is.
Sometimes it can also be with family members, like a mom, a dad, different people.
Sometimes when you get older, especially in your 20s, I feel like there's just, I see a lot of people talk about how they struggle with their, like a relationship with their parents.
So I know that's also a big one.
Um, I'm gonna talk about mostly romantic relationships and resentment that can rise within that, but I, uh, the same principle and the same ideas that I [laughs] am talking about can apply to, obviously, anybody because they're just, because it's the same principle just applied to different relationships and different dynamics.
Something in particular within building resentment that I wanted to talk about, I think on, and in this, on both ends of this situation, is the idea of n- like asking someone over and over again to do something or being on the receiving end of someone feeling like they're nagging you.
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