94 | Analyzing SEXUAL FAWNING in Sex and the City (S1:E7)

In this episode of **Somatics on Screen**, we’re getting into *Sex and the City* Season 1, Episode 7: **“The Monogamists.”** This episode gives us A LOT to work with somatically. Carrie realizes she and Big may have very different ideas about what dating each other actually means. Miranda finds herself dating someone whose desire for closeness and time together exceeds her own capacity for it. And Charlotte is confronted with a sexual act she genuinely does not want to do — while also navigating the pressure, expectations, and relational consequences attached to saying no. So naturally, we’re talking about **sexual fawning, attachment, relational capacity, desire, boundaries, and what happens when two people want very different amounts of closeness.** With Charlotte, I unpack the difference between choosing something sexually because you genuinely want to and overriding your own disgust, hesitation, or lack of desire because you’re afraid of what saying no might cost you. And through Carrie and Miranda, we explore something I think gets flattened in dating conversations all the time: two people can like each other and still have very different capacities for intimacy, commitment, frequency of contact, or relational closeness. Those differences don’t automatically make one person avoidant and the other needy — but they do give us information. Welcome back to **Somatics on Screen**, where we use television as an excuse to talk about what bodies, attachment systems, and nervous systems are doing underneath the plot. 📚 **READ **TIRED OF BEING GOOD**** My book, *Tired of Being Good: A Nervous System Map for Reclaiming Your Body After a Lifetime of Fawning*, is a deeper exploration of fawning, boundaries, anger, desire, self-abandonment, and learning to hear yourself again. https://us.amazon.com/Tired-Being-Good-reinhabiting-lifetime-ebook/dp/B0H1K2MZ4V 🔥 **SEXUAL FAWNING COURSE** My on-demand course for understanding sexual fawning and building a more embodied relationship with consent, desire, sexual boundaries, pleasure, and your body’s yes/no/maybe. https://stan.store/kalisomatics/p/sexual-fawning-course