Why your life hasn't changed (no matter how hard you've tried)

I wanted to start today's episode a little differently by reading you a message I got last week that I actually haven't stopped thinking about ever since.

I'm gonna read it to you quickly.

"Hey, Grace.

I hope you're doing well.

I'm coming to you a little desperate and a bit out of love with the self-improvement space.

I feel like my whole feed is full of 10 steps to change your life and lists I need to follow, but every time I try any of these, I give up or it doesn't change my life in the way the person promised.

I know you always say it how it is, so I wanted to ask for some advice.

I love the podcast, by the way, but I thought you'd have thoughts." So I really resonated with this, and I feel like it's how a lot of people are feeling at the moment because I love personal growth.

I am very aware that throughout my career I've talked a lot about systems and habits and discipline, and I fully stand by everything I say in terms of that.

But I also know firsthand how frustrating it is when you follow all the steps and things aren't really changing to the level that you hoped it would.

And I think this is a conversation I have with people time and time again, like especially people who are really into self-improvement.

Some people are able to jump on it and lots of things change at once.

Other people find it a lot harder, or other people it's just not reflected in wider areas of their life.

But because I think these however many step approaches can be incomplete on their own when we're not talking about some other things, they require some nuance.

And I really wanna talk about why your life might not have changed in the way that you thought it would, even though you've genuinely been trying really hard.